Hey, so I met this girl at a party one time with a couple of friends of mine and we all had fun and this particular girl invited me and my other friends all to her own party she was having next week. By this time I was already attracted to her. Anyway before we went to her party the next week me and one of my friends saw her and her friends in week before the party and she kept touching my jumper and pulling dog hair off it which was on there from a friends dog and was complimenting my clothes and hair etc.. That night when I went to go home and was about to leave she ran up to me and hugged me and made me promise I visit her party that weekend.

So I went to her party and she was kind of aloof half the night until the night except right before I left when she came up and started hugging me and not wanting me to leave and being really affectionate but I had to leave so we were both joking around about it and eventually I left her party leading her out the door with my arm around her shoulders and hers around mine. After this night I decided how much I liked her and was going to ask her out and saw her with no boyfriend that night so assumed she was single too and my friends told me that I had a chance!

Then about a week or so passed and I hadn't seen her or her other friends so a friend of mine had messaged her trying to get her come hang around with us a group kind of thing, but she flaked and said she was tired. I then decided to grab her number off my friend seeing as me and her didn't exchange numbers already but somehow it just seemed like we were going to see each other soon so getting numbers didn't seem that pressing and I was waiting to see her move to ask her out and get her number. But anyway I got her number off my friend seeing as she was not feeling well and I hadn't seen her and after this I waited about 3-4 days later sent her a message as we still hadn't seen her and her friends and all wanted to catch up. After I sent her the first message she was very happy to hear from me and responded she wasn't going out tonight but wanted to catch up soon! So I left it for that night and ended up texting her the night after asking "When are we going to catch up?". To which she replied "Whenever I am free all week! ". So I invited her out Monday night that week but she was tired that night, then I waited until Wednesday and asked her again but she said she was still "tired" in the text so I got a little pissed off and started ignoring her but not before sending her a kind " Hope you feel better" I was polite about it but kinda pissed and also was not going to keep initaiting conversation and wanted to wait for her to. On Firday morning she responded and sent me a message asking to hang out with me on Friday but I was busy and could not get there on time. So I did go meet up with her and with one of my friends but I was late which she knew and things where weird, she was very quiet at first. But then at the end of the night she came right up to me and hugged me tightly and said she wanted for me and her to catch up in the week and do something fun. I agreed with her and we both went our seperate ways that night.

I then waited 3 days until Monday to see what she was doing. I texted her and me and some friends all caught up with each other at a comedy show, it was brief though. But she was still really happy to see me and was hugging me and stuff. However she left early with some Gay friend she had with her or at least people told me he was Gay ( I got worried it was a BF). When I realised she left I texted her asking when we where going to catch up again properly and she did not respond until the next morning saying "when the weather isn't so hot!". Now it is summer over here but for some reason when I got this message I got really annoyed and felt like she was being evasive. I mean every time she sees me she acts really happy and hugs me and says she wants to catch up.

But every time we go to organize something she seems to become nervous or evasive and makes little jokes and will never want to make an actual time or day it's always vague. So I called her out on her texts and asked her if she really wanted to hang out or was she just making excuses. It felt a bit harsh doing it but I was getting frustrated and starting to feel played and wanted to figure out the story. After asking her if she really wanted to hang out or was just making excuses, she sent a text message back apologizing say she really,truly wants to meet up and do something with me and she is sorry for making excuses. I responded by saying "Ok ok, I still want to hang out with you too" to which she responded " Good! ".

Anyway my question is, does this girl have high enough interest in me and is just being nervous and shy or does it seem like she is playing games for attention or already has a boyfriend and is stringing me along. Or is she interested in me as friends and trying to blow me off gently as not to lose my friendship. I really like this girl and am pretty sure she likes me too but need to know if I should just handle her differently if she is nervous or get rid of her if she is playing games and attention seeking. Thanks - MM

I can tell your new to the game.. you have what we call "Oneitis"
Anyway to answer your question I think she is still interested and that is always the mindset to have.
In my opinion your problem is that you still have alot of beta traits perhaps poor body language, or lack of conversational skills and lack of purpose/direction and this is causing her to not be as attracted to you.
Despite this you obviously have some form of attraction going if she is replying to you and the fact you called her out was very alpha so you scored points with that one. I can only suggest you look into improving your inner game to a greater standard and in the mean time continue pursueing her. But realise there are other girls out there and don't put all your eggs in one basket.

(Also just a tip when you were at the party and she left you shouldn't of text her that was very needy it showed her that you were only interested in speaking to her. If you were alpha you would of been partying it up with other girls and being too busy to text her until the next day)

but don't worry about past mistakes or future problems.. focus on the present

Hey man, yeah kinda new back to the game broke up with my last GF over 18months ago and got seriously sick after that with an unrelated illness so am kind of out of practice if that makes sense. I never texted her after the party. I left the party which was at her house and she wanted me to stay. I didn't text her until like over a week later.

Anyway since all this has happened we made a date last Thursday but she blew me off saying she had some problem with her dog being poisoned and needed to take him to the vet in an emergency. I got kinda pissed of with her for doing that and told her off a bit, then she didn't reply the next day until Saturday but said she was really sorry and felt awful for doing it and wanted to reschedule for Sunday.

But at the time I was too annoyed with her for blowing me off on thursday so I didn't reply. I then saw her best friend on Saturday night and she told me that this girl was telling the truth about her sick dog and was upset and this girl was also suffering depression too ( which the girl previously told me). So I sent her a message saying I hope she was ok and if she wants to catch up or reschedule to let me know.
But she has not replied since. Now her friend gave me the impression this girl is interested but is just going through personal problems so I don't know if it's that or she is pissed off and lost interest?

Sorry if this sounds amateur but I can't tell if I have scared her off by being too nice or getting pissed off at her a couple of times either. I just want to know if I am still interested in her what is the best way to text her and find out if she is still interested and is just quiet because she is sick, or she is pissed off and wants me to bugger off.

She is younger than me so it could explain a bit. I am used to dating girls my own age and they are easier to talk with. I just want to know if she has flaked multiple times and ignored a couple of message, does that mean she has lost interest even though she has given me plenty of signs such as touching, previously asking to catch up and her friends telling me she was keen to see me.

Does this sound like it is screwed, or is there some kind of way I can text her to get back in contact and still show her I am interested without seeming creepy or alienate her. I also don;t want to do this as we have mutual friends and I don;t want this to fracture our group. Any suggestions guys??

Can someone please give me somekind of advice on whether this chick is interested still and/or worth it. Im not sure how to win her back or if it is even worth the effort. Do I move on? Or is there a way to get her back into me enough to actually come out?

Sounds like a legitimate flake, to be honest you f**ked up when you ignored her attempt to reschedule.
You should ALWAYS accept a reschedule.. I would leave her alone and if she texts you sometime in the future great.. but you should try gaming other girls as any further texts and calls will just hinder your attraction even more. Sorry bro.. learn from your mistake and move on..

Yeah I did kind of accept the reschedule but not until 2 days after she offered. By that time she had hit her head or something and was in bed sick. Which is a true story I found out. If she has said she wants to catch up this week when she last messaged me would messaging her again asking her out really come off as to pushy and unnattractive. SO basically even if I have other options with girls but really like this one at the most there is nothing to do. I fucked up that bad? She did too when she flaked the week before me. I have already backed off a bit and started pursuing other chicks but I really want to do something with this one. If the signs of interest in me are there on her part but she is just too shy to intiate, wouldn't me messaging her again show that I really like her. I mean I would prefer to do that but if that is something that could backfire in a massive way I wont bother texting and just wait until I see her next. If I really want to bag this one chick would there be any type of messaging approach I could do? Or is it really not worth it? She does have depression/anxiety issues so I am not sure if the rules apply to her as she is of a slightly different state of mind than most girls. Let me know your opinions further if you got time, if you know the game I'd appreciate it. Cheers Alpha Lion for the responses bro

Two things :

1- You're needy
2- You obviously have a oneitis

Look at your texts and tell us where you showed dominance and confidence. You need to avoid texting things like "when are we going to meet up?". It shows neediness. Also, when you called her on her excuses, you showed neediness again! Sometimes it can be good, but in this case it just fits your needy frame. I think you have the wrong mindset here. Life your life and give her the chance to be part of it instead of making her be your life.

This brings me to the second point. You probably know what a oneitis is but it looks like you got a solid one lol. The only solution to that is to see other girls. I know it's easier said then done, but it's true. You will probably see other interesting girls that will take your mind of that one. By doing this, you will probably be less obsessed by this girl. Furthermore, don't text her to know if she's interested come on man. The only good way to get this information is to see her face to face and kino until you experience some resistance...

For your information, I think her interest level is still high, but it's going in the wrong direction.

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Yeah fair enough, I am can be somewhat needy as a general rule even with my male friends. But I am needy in a don't give a fuck kind of way. So I really don't mind too much about that. I have enough pride and confidence to accept certain character flaws. I think as far as my texts go I have displayed confidence and dominance by 1) calling her out on her flakiness 2) offering her to come out with me and friends or I can meet her beforehand (showing her I have a social life that exist regardless of her). As for dominance I felt that being ballsy enough to initiate without concern of consequence was an example and I've also shown dominance by being caring, teasing her about teaching her to drive in my car ( she has no license) and I have been dominant when I was not majorly fussed about her flaking although I politely hinted she not do it again. I don't know if I have one-itis as I have other chicks on the go but this one is the stand out so I am naturally and sneakily putting more effort into her. I don't get how messaging her to come out is going to make it worse if I don;t do it too often. THe worst thing that can happen is she tells me to "fuck off" or stops replying and goes cold. But either way if I ignore her for long periods I fail to see how that increases my chances as she is too shy to initiate. She has alot of gay friends and they are probably telling her how to game me along with the fact that she is depressed anxious about coming out. I just thought being cheeky, laid back, funny but demanding about getting her out and sending her somekind of text every few days to keep the communication line open is fine. If this is fucked up for any major reason please let me know!