Hey guys, I need a little bit help. I met one girl on some camp and at the end of the camp we´re kissing. After the camp, we went out twice and on each date we´re kissing. We text or call each other almost everyday. I´d love to ask her if she wanna be in a relationship with me..And I´d like u guys to help me how to ask please..?

Then ask, it is a no until you ask!

How to ask?

Why would you want to add the tag of "relationship" if you're getting what you want from her? Don't even bother asking her... The most you should do is drop hints. If she drops hints as well you can bring it up.

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[quote="Fly_Swatter"]Why would you want to add the tag of "relationship" if you're getting what you want from her? Don't even bother asking her... The most you should do is drop hints. If she drops hints as well you can bring it up.[/I´m in love with her probably and I don´t know if it´s mutual and tried to find out...Ok I will not bother her by asking. I will just keep going out with her)

Well don't try to find out. If you two are indeed in love, she's not going to run because you didn't tell her you love her, or because you didn't ask her to be in a relationship. That's a personal promise I am making you.

HOWEVER, she MAY run if you scare her with "I love you" or "I want you to be my girlfriend" or anything along those lines. The only time you may bring up something along those lines is when she's the one brings it up. Let her make the first move.

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Ok, thank u very much buddy! And is there any possibility to induce her to do a first move? I think it is very up to her...

You can say something nice/sweet/flattering like "I love spending time with you" but leave it at that. As a general rule of thumb, men should make the first moves when it comes to sex and intimacy. But when it comes to emotions and relationships, women should make the first moves. Keep that in mind.

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OK, thank u man

Hold on there buddy. You met a girl, kissed her. Went out twice after that. This is all the contact you'Ve had with her in person and you already want to be in a relationship? Out of all the girls you could meet you've chosen her because...

How can you know what a person is truly like after seeing her only a few times? You haven't even fucked the girl yet, and sex is the strongest bonding activity two people can do together. You haven't even gotten to that point yet and you want her as you gf? Think about this long and hard. I think you may be a little desperate and needy. What do you think?

Sorry I did not tell u everything. We have known each other for 4 years, but we did not go out or anything else before. We just talked to each other as a friends. But before the camp I saw her on some exhibition and I started to talk to her, she seemed very nice. Then I asked her out but unfortunately I got sick and could not meet her ( of course she agreed). We met one week later on the camp. We spent a lot of time together there. At the end of the camp we´re kissing and the things went really well. And after the camp I asked her out again....then u know the story...that´s the way I need help..

Listen. It is always better if the girl wants to be in a relationship first and then you agree. If you ask whether or not she wants to be in a relationship, you're coming across as very needy. Why it just go with the flow and see how things develop? You are needy for her affection. This shows a few things: 1) you don't have many options, 2) you are inexperienced with women, 3) you don't have an exciting life without her - she is the center of your attention.

See how these are all things that can come off as unattractive and push her away?

My advice: just go with the flow, eacalate, be the man and see where things go. Guide her without being needy.

OK, thank u man