Ok to keep this short...
Was seeing a girl i really liked a 5 months or so ago, had great sex e.t.x..but she broke it off and said something was missing, I still persued her and a month or so later we ended up hooking up again..but shortly after she said the same thing..i deleted her on fbook e.t.c to cut her out, but she added me a few weeks ago so we started talking again..been going out with her best friend a bit lately to, to play the jelousy card..
Anyway ive been pestering her for a drink but she keeps flagging me off..but friday i mananged to get her out for one..after my persistance stayed at hers and had amazing sex again!! But she said this is the last time cause she's gonna get back with her ex of for years tomorrow! So i was like ok, thats a shame..
So i guess this is why she could never commit to me cause to be fair she's probably always been seeing him on and off..
But i really want her and the sex is good, but i dont know what to do?
last night i tried to get back over her house and she was like, no...you know thats it, and she said if we were together she would just hurt me..
So i said ok i respect your decision, but if things dont work out with your ex you know where i am..

But i really like and want her..anyone got any ideas on how to get her..or should i just give up?

cheers guys

So she chooses another guy over you and yet you're telling her you'll still be available in the future?

You've given her no sense of your value relative to hers here. It's all about what she wants and you're just fitting around that.

She should feel that if she passes you up this time she's probably lost you for good, because a hot stud like you is going to have plenty of other women in his life by the time she eventually changes her mind. She should believe that it's now or never for the two of you, whether that's the case or not.

Ok i see..so i may have fucked that up by what i've said to her already and telling her i want her...

so what do you reckon i can do to resolve this?

I think you need to let it go man. She told you she thought there was something missing twice (did she give you any idea what that was by the way?) and then chose someone else over you. I think you'd be doing yourself harm by continuing to pursue this. You're also talking about a girl who habitually gets back together with exes who she presumably broke up with for a reason. Doesn't sound like a helpful and forward-looking person to have in your life generally. Doesn't sound like someone with a clue what she wants, just lurching from one fuck up to the next by the sound of it.

So why do you want her would be one question (apart from the good sex, which she is not the sole supplier of). She's not treated you that well and I doubt she would in the future.

Even if it was a good idea, sounds like you've pushed your value right through the floor by "pestering" her, and repeatedly accepting her back despite her not showing any real commitment to you (or consideration by the sounds of it).

I've had a very similar experience, you have to accept that she will not commit to you. She left me for no good reason twice. What i did was reverse the roles. I made my self unavailable to her and now she is the one reaching to me trying to get me back. I now know better. Plus i still get to enjoy the good sex.

Cool, thanks for the replies guys..

She never said what was missing she just said something was..but to be honest, I probably wasn't her Ex so that what was missing for her..I like the role reversal idea..If she comes back she comes back..

I got speaking to her yesterday and got into quite a sexual converstation..and was talking about anal sex with her..(which she didn't let me do the other night)..but in this convo, I said I'd save the anal sex for next time..and she was like.."depends how pissed you get me"..so i was like "damm i knew i should have got you that extra shot"..

But the point is, she said "next time"..so what do you reckon? she must still think were gonna have sex again.. even tho she said its over?..plus she was getting invlved in the sexual convo last night..
But like you say, sounds like she'll cheat on her ex maybe with me, get back together with him and so on..

cheers guys

Ok so i spoke to her the other night, tried to get sexual..after my persitance she said it was cringe'y...so that not good..i fucked it a bit i think, she ended up saying she doesn't want to have sex with me anymore, and she doesn't have enough of a connection to carry on a casual thing

Also she said she's not getting back with her ex for a while..thats was why i was like "ok, lets just have casual sex" with her response.."noooo"

so we ended the convo with me saying "fuck it i tried, ill leave you to it"

what shall i do here? Delete her as an fbook friend? freeze her out? any ideas guys