| So you've met a girl, you got on well great, and then the inevitable happened. Things fell apart.
Worse, it was entirely YOUR fault. You started trying to make excuses, blame other people, and turned into a complete AFC. She told you to 'just move on'.
You decided to try and be friends with her... but it didn't really work out. She seemed nice enough about it, but there was this element of awkwardness, after everything, that just really didn't need to be there.
So you stopped texting/calling her/ looking at her facebook... for (how long has it been?) and you've calmed down now. You've regained your AMOG quailities; you got over your 'one-itis' of her.
But now you're wondering how she views you. It would be a real shame if you never got a second shot at having a proper, comitted relationship with her... even though it might not be the same as it was, you feel like it's worth the try. It makes no sense from a logical point of view... but the heart wants what the heart wants.
Problem is, the heart has all sorts of emotions that will screw up your big 'second chance'. That's why you tried out 'no-contact' so as now you can... 'behave' around her.
SO, it's been a month (maybe two), you've went of with other girls or did whatever you had to do to get rid of your affliction... and now you want her back.
What's the next step, if any? How would you even begin a conversation with this girl again, when you feel like a simple 'Hey, haven't spoke to you in ages, blah blah blah' won't quite cut it; she'll be giving you the cold shoulder, and you won't even get to the stage where you could start teasing her, using playful humour...
So I ask you this question PUAs, because I'm very curios- how do we disarm a girls 'cold shoulder'? What is a list of absolute 'Do's' and 'Don't's' after 'no-contact'? e.g. should we bring up memories from the past...? When would it be appropriate to talk about meeting up... (maybe after a week or two?)
Because right now I'm just a blind pig.
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