So I asked this girl at work i liked out and she said no. Her reason was she was scared it would go wrong. Although I was gutted at the time I gave her tons of space, went no contact (other than polite hello's etc) and started reading the DJ bible and sorting my life out.

I started spinning other plates, have become quite proficient at getting girl's numbers and going out on dates with them so that is no longer a problem.

Now, a few months later, I've noticed that this girl has started showing signs of something. In meetings I'll catch her looking at me then looking away when i meet her gaze. The other day i was coming back from a meeting and she was just watching me. I held her gaze and she just kept on watching.

I don't know what it means (if it means anything), but I just kind of found it interesting.

Maybe she just wants to see if she can hold that power over me that she once had and see if i'll come running again (which i won't).

Have you ever been in this situation where a girl who has rejected you suddenly shows signs of interest or whatever whenever you get your shit together?

If I were you I'd try talking to her again, and see if you can string HER along as payback for saying no. Basically turn the tables around. She probably misses the attention and she might be willing to work for it again, if not more.

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Yeah, this is exactly what i've been doing lately. Kind of flirting, and teasing her but with no intention of any outcome.

it's awesome to hear you are going on some dates man, that's a great step forward

the thing here is that a lot of the time girls are simply unavailable due to logistics and it doesn't have too much to do with her being attracted or comfortable with going out with you, she just isn't receptive to a new guy at that time and logistically there isn't enough value in it for her to comply, it would make her situation worse rather then better from her point of view and for that reason it isn't possible

the only real solution to this is to just not get needy or weird or put pressure on her so that you can reduce the cost of the idea of dating you from her end as well as allow time to open up those logistics for you for a better chance at her re-considering, just keeping things light and casual and normal and keep the pressure off her and in that case you just be normal and casual until they show some interest in going out with you, like contacting you frequently or asking you out (this is assuming they are already aware you are interested in going on a date with them)

but the tricky thing here for you is this girl is in your work space, and flirting around or projecting sexual intent towards a girl that flaked you or gave you a no go, is sort of playing with fire, girls often times will be friendly to guys they are not interested in just because they know he is interested and doesn't want to hurt his feelings, so too much intent in this regard can sort of make a girl uncomfortable and that is dangerous when your job is on the line considering a complaint about this sort of thing can put your job at risk

well, when i say flirting, i mean i interact very light-hearted and casually. like the way i used to be with her before all this kicked off.

absolutely no expectations on my part. even if she did ask me out i would not say yes because there are too many red flags as you mentioned above. last thing i want is all that to kick off again.

Happened to me twice hey. Had the biggest oneitis ever. The 1st girl I liked but at the time I was a big AFC,she had bf,she never told me that,she just said she only wants to be friends,well even now as I learned PUA I can tell she was at least interested,with the stares,touching and all but whatever it was,I don't care. After ignoring her for sometime and getting busy with other stuff,she came strong on me,trying to make fun of me in front of friends,talking to me 1st,touching me and staring a lot. The 2nd time was with a girl I had a thing with,she never liked me at all. After I got into pua I learned a few tricks,became really confident and very sociable,she grew on me and started to like me. It could be she always wanted you or that you changed and she's getting attracted to you. Need more details. Seems like she starting to like you,maybe something about you changed or she really always liked you but you only noticing now and her rejecting you was cause she had issues.

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Women love attention. But they like attention more from guys they like. But true I wouldn't care just move on and if a side thing with her happens cool.