Well, I work in a lab environment so we get cute girls working there. I normally keep my pen out of company ink but there are so many damn relationships going on at work.

On Friday, this girl will be working in the lab with me for about 3hrs. Just us two. Any ideas on how to go about this? Outside of this, we haven't really spoken other than her helping me package test materials. We do have an IM system at work, not sure if I could use that to my advantage.

Thanks guys

This is great just you two, what better opportunity to have!!! Anyway I suggest that you try to talk to her before Friday in person or on the IM system. You do not need to show too much intrest, just be indirect but don't act awkard or scared. Then when you meet on Friday she will be comfortable with you and you can pay attention to the signs she gives to progress in your interaction with her. I also recommend that you run some KINO on her during your interactions especially on Friday.

i would just talk to her starting with saying HI, use the techniques and skills that you have learned here to move the convo in the direction that you want it to go and try to get her alone with you outside of work. possibly Friday night for a couple of hours of OT

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Thanks for the replies. I've said hi to her and such since she her office is only a few doors down from mine. But nothing much more than that.

I am going out with 6-7 coworkers to go bowling Friday night. She doesn't really know any of them except maybe one and they aren't really my 'friends' (but I know them all). But one of the girls (I'm not attracted to the girl who invited me and she actually cock blocks me at work. Like she'll talk negative about me in front of me and the girls) in the group invited me so i figured I'd go to get out since I haven't been bowling in awhile. Now I don't want to invite her into a group of people who she doesn't really know and I don't really know other than a first/last name basis since they aren't really my normal friends.



EDIT: Also, the girl in the above paragraph talks to this other girl she was hired in with. Therefore, they are friends. Now, I think I f***ed myself and never took advantage of the phone number I got from the first girl (not the above paragraph girl). Is there a way to recoup it and possibly get her interested again? This girl literally sits in the office next to me.

ask her to go out with you to a different venue not with the others bowling. spend an hour or two with her outside of work just to talk and get to know her

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So I wanted to update this thread with something. Going to be sort of long so bear with me.

Found out the girl (girl S) I was working with on Friday has a boyfriend. I'm not a fan of trying to hook up with someone else's girl. I did practice some push/pull/negs on girl S since I am new to the game so I need the practice. She was doing something weird with stacking stuff while we were working and I said, "the person who trained you must be OCD or you are OCD". She laughed and said she's not OCD. We then started to talk about music and she said she liked Eminem. I said I like Bone Thugs in which she said she never heard of them. I said, "You've never heard of Bone? I can't even talk to you now". I turned on some Bone Thugs which she said she really enjoyed. I said "That's good. You get a gold star today" She seemed to enjoy the conversation we had. Laughing and smiling. NOW, this is where it got interesting....

Another girl (Girl K - 22yrs old or so. I am 24.) I work with who I think I got her number too quick without much interaction with her. I texted her about 2 months ago and I pretty much was in damage control. So, at work I didn't act weird around her or bring up anything we spoke about outside of work. We rarely see each other at work so I just kept it pretty professional around her. She was working in the lab with Girl S and myself and I pretty much didn't give her any attention in the 3 hours other than to include her in the conversation with Girl S and myself. That was last Friday. Fast forward to yesterday. I see her in the hallway walking in the same direction as me (I am about 15ft behind her), she is walking SUPER slow so I say to her "walk any slower and you might end up in reverse." I needed to get some work done so I just walked by her. She commented on me on "walking fast" (I just walk with authority). I turned around, smiled and didn't verge from my route. She then RAN to catch up to me in the hall to talk. I thought that was a good sign. We parted ways and I said to have a Happy Thanksgiving. I threw her a few text messages last night. Please critique anything since I am new to the game and just want the practice. She is pretty quiet at work but I feel like she has this crazy/freak side that I'd like to get in-touch with. Here is the small text we had last night: (remember this is the first time we texted each other since two months ago)

Me: Who is this?
Girl K: (name)
Me: I know, I'm just being in ass. What are you up to?
Girl K: Watching duck dynasty. It's a marathon.
Me: Let me guess, you're in a snuggie? Where was my invite? (I wanted to throw in that line because I want to let her know I'm somewhat interested, you know what I mean)
Girl K: haha noo and must have got lost in the mail
Me: Going Christmas shopping for brothers and nephews Saturday. You seem to have a nice sense of style, want to tag along?
Girl K: aww thanks but my family's doing their get together stuff this weekend cause everyone works tomorrow.

I decided to go to bed after that since I was tired from work. Not too sure where to take it...

Also, another thing. I was talking to a guy in the lab last Thursday about my future vacation trip to Osaka, Japan and she butted in that she going to Ireland for a friends wedding. Seems like she is trying to have things in common. She also never heard of Bone Thugs so I had her hooked on the Bone Thugs pandora station.

I'll probably game Girl S when I can just to practice. I'll have Girl K in the lab with me again for 3hrs next Friday.





EDIT: There is also this new girl who I went to high school with. We are facebook friends. She has been liking pretty much all status updates and such. Well, one day she posted that is quitting smoking. I posted a comment saying "ewwww smoking. You just lost 3 points". I gave her one point back when she said she is on day 1 of no smoking. And then today she posted something about shooting guns so I said "shooting guns, for the win!" She said "2 points now." I then responded back with "I'm not sure you can get this 3rd point back, it may be hard." She then sent me a text message 5 mins ago asking "How can I get this 3rd point back?"

Hmm, what to respond back with? This is also the girl I played the "...in bed" text message with a few days ago. You know, end each sentence with "...in bed."

Here is how that text went down:
Me: Let's play a game. The rest of our texts today must end with "in bed". Got it?
Her: Seriously...in bed?
Me: Don't be mad because I thought of it first...in bed?
Her: lol, i'm getting my nails done...in bed.
Me: Wow. You're so naughty...in bed.
Her: hahaha
Her: What are you doing today...in bed?
Me: Have you found out a way to get those 3 points back...in bed?
Me: Work, and working out...in bed.
Her: Lol
Me: You know you like my spontaneous messages...in bed.
Her: I do...in bed lol
Me: Any exciting plans this weekend...in bed?
Her: I'll be in West Va...in bed
Me: Can I Join...in bed
Her: haha if you want lol

Left it after that. I'm thinking maybe a shooting range would be a good place to take her. Since the other girl had plans for shopping, maybe I'll take this girl.

Any suggestions or critiques?

Forget K for now... She missed your attention and wanted it back. Now ignore her and make her want you again, but next time don't be so forward.

As for S, sure you can practice on her, and don't feel bad that she has a boyfriend. It's up to her to stop you, not up to you to stop yourself.

You made a mistake by not replying to the new girl's last text. She gave you an IOI and you left it there. At the very least reply by changing the topic instead of killing the text conversation out cold. You could have said something like "Okay we'll arrange something another time. But for now I have to go take a crap... in bed." So you're acknowledging her forward response and at the same time adding humour like it was nothing.

But it's not all lost. Just hit her up again but don't ask her out right away... Make sure she's still showing interest in you, then you can ask her. Not sure about the driving range. My routine is to take girls to coffee and then a near-by bar where it's easy and appropriate to work up the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder.

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Ah, I understand. Thanks for the response. Now about Girl K, I will be in the lab with her on Monday for maybe an hour and then on Thursday (Girl S and an old dude will be in the lab with us Thursday) and Friday (we'll be alone this day) for 3hrs both days. Not sure if I can really just ignore her. She seems to be a iNvestor/Denier but not sure if she is a realist or idealist. EDIT: Just been reading into those two, I'm pretty sure she is an idealist.

It's crazy going through the girls I know and figuring out what they are

LOL, don't do that! It's weird as fuck! You're not at a club or in a coffee shop! Just be careful to the signs? if he doesn't attract her there will be no signs.. Besides, the risk of this is high as she might report him for sexual kino lol! Just be funny and use the things you know from NLP.. After you are done, tell her you are going to have a coffee or drink somewhere and she should join you.. There you can do all the tricks and not at work especially if you don't know the chick at all and she hasn't shown any signs to you

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Any other suggestions? I am working the lab with Girl K for about an hour on tomorrow. Should I continue to ignore her and keep it strictly professional?

Was in the lab with Girl K today. Nothing crazy. Just talked to her about how she doesn't do anything exciting. Picked on her for watching Duck Dynasty with her 100 cats during the weekend. Took points away. She said she should get points for helping me in the lab. Asked where I grew up. I said "you seem like you would've been a cheerleader in high school. You just remind me of the cheerleaders I dated in school". She played tennis. She has this innocent/shy side to her.

She seems to keep disqualifying herself. Saying like she sucks at tennis, sucks as yoga, etc. I tried to pep her up saying something like "but you are awesome at helping me".

I didn't mention her declining to go shopping with me(she declined cause she was having thanksgiving dinner on Saturday). Kept it pretty neutral. She does seem to be opening up to me. I feel like I need to kino before I get the "LJBF".

We have a work Christmas party at the Headquarters on Dec 7th that she asked if I was going to. I talked to other people and they said it's free alcohol and food. And then most people leave and go to a local bar. She did say she lives like a block away from the Christmas Party. I said "I guess I need to be persuaded more to go" and then she said "I'm not a very persuasive person".

I'll be in the lab with her again on Thursday but with another old dude and Girl S from above. And then Friday, I will be in the lab with her and Girl S for the majority of the day. I'm thinking maybe I should ask if she'd like to tag along with me to the Christmas party sometime next week.

Texted her saying I wanted to see something funny, so I said I was going to the the Funny Bone Saturday (comedy club local) and she should come. No response.

I'm sure I've messed up some of the situations and such so no biggie since I am new the this. Offered her to go shopping and to a comedy club with nothing. I think I'm tired of trying with this chick. Time to move on?

I'm going to ignore her for a few days/weeks and see if she tries to get my attention again. If she does, I'll punish her longer for not going out with me.