I was at a dinner event last week and can't for the life of me figure out what the fuck happened.

It was arranged by a friend of mine; we didn't really all know each other except we had gone to a singles dinner event months a go and it was his idea to share contact info.

I get into the venue; this one guy who recognized me called me over. Guests were sitting with people they brought. The trouble is; I couldn't edge my way into a concersation to save my life.

It was an odd number of people, and I was the only one not talking to someone I didn't go way baack with. The people on either side of me had their backs turned to me, and were chatting. The people on the opposite side of the table were also in mid-conversation, but the music was POUNDING as loud as fuck and I wouldn't have been able to hear anything anyway unless I was screaming right into someone's ear and vice/versa.

It was noticeable from a mile away. I looked like the lone doofus sitting at the corner of the table not being talked to by anyone; and no doubt girls were noticing this shit. (there were quite a few hot ones snd they were all seated at tables with groups of friends.

There were even two girls next to me (arrived together) but one of the guys (Indian like them) had no problem getting up eventually and walking over and getting between them, talking to them at the same time.

The friend of mine who arranged it evetually arrived, with guess what? A girl! - and this is a guy who was swearing months ago that however bad I thought my game was; his was far worse. How did he meet this girl?
Friend of a friend's ex. His approach skills were dismal and he could never get anywhere with a girl when we were out/

I guess long-live clique-based social interaction / dating.

We had moved to another venue; and it was at this point that I realized a couple of these identically dressed dudes who were invited by one of the originals were being pretty shitty/cliquey/disrespectful to me when I'd try to make conversation (Pony by Genuwine came on, I said, "So are we rockin' the mid 90's? One of them would take a sip of his drink, say, "apparently so." then look away. So I was done at this point. I cordially said my goodbyes to everyone; including my friend, and hit the road.

i asked him what the fuck happened last night; the next day. Told him there was also no way it was my drinking either; it's not like I got hammered and started acting socially awkward, etc., because people were pairing up in two's and chatting with their backs turned to me before my first drink even came out.

He said, "Maybe it's the wrong crowd for you." "You can't expect every night to go well."

His friend (the one w/ the ex) said, "Your feelings sound extreme. You're basically saying, 'They didn't respond to me how I wanted,so they didn't like me.'"

A third friend of mine said I should've left long before; and gone to a place where my energy would've been better spent. Some say that's a "tucking your tail between your legs and running off"; he calls that bullshit.

What do you guys think? have you ever been "cliqued out" before when trying to make something of the night?

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I totally feel your pain. I used to watch Ben Stiller movies and just cringe, because he portrays these sorts of situations so well and I always saw myself in them too.

But honestly man, there is a very very very simple solution.

Never ever ever ever be a tag along. Because if you just go along to a party and the people are lame, like the people you went with, they will freeze you out and make you feel worthless. It's a bad feeling. But honestly, what were you really contributing? Not much right? Did you even like those people? No. They were lame. You can do better than them.

From now on, only throw your own parties. Period. Or if you go out, lead your buddies and go find new girls. But you going to this event was a recipe for disaster.

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LOL

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

I've been to this kind of situation. I don't exactly know the set up (ie. people at other tables), but I think a good thing to do is just stand up from the table walk to another one and join them saying something like "Can I join you guys, because my friends are so boring" something like that.
It's not your fault at all. Those people were asses period. It's impolite and rude casting out someone like that.
At least now you learned that you shouldn't waste your energy to those people next time.