Option 1 is a good idea. Your focus is all on her because it's fresh, and it hurts. But you gotta remember, this is your FIRST relationship. That doesn't make it your LAST!

Do your best to move on, and take what you learned from your first relationship and apply it to your second one to help insure that your second one is better than the first.

Pick your head up, and yourself up, and enjoy your new freedom. If you do reinitiate contact at some point because you do want her back, definitely DO NOT have a big spiel all prepped. Chances are if you do that she'll see that you've been dwelling on her and all of it all along and it shows weakness. Women typically are not attracted to weakness, they are attracted to strength, and that applies to mental and emotional strength just as much if not more than physical.

To show her you are strong and healthy, you need to move on, be there for her as a friend if she calls on you, and if not, enjoy your life and make it the best it can be with or without her. It's hard the first few days, but it gets easier. Just read all of the posts on here from guys after a breakup.

How exactly is it selfish to honor her wishes? Also, why do you think that Christmas will save your relationship?
Waiting for a girl, how romantic. But she hasn't asked you to "stay loyal". In fact, by breaking up she basically screamed at you: "Go have sex with other women!" So follow her (and my) advice and do just that. You "staying loyal" will not magically stop her from fucking other guys. It will only serve to make you obsessive with her and dissatisfied with yourself.

My advice would be to go for option four: move on, don't contact her at all until you are completely fine with her banging some other dude. The thing about first relationships is that you think they're so special. But remember Sinatra: "Love is lovelier, the second time around."

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One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.

I've had exact same situation...not so long ago...what I did, was whenever she'd say smth like that and ask to be friends, I'd say no, then back of for a day or so, then meet up as if nothing happened, after a few times she'll stop. Also, don't treat her too affectionately cause it'll either show u as needy or a good guy she doesn't deserve. Show you cold side, and don't reward behaviors you don't like with your affection. Worked for me.

EDIT: by not treating her too affectionately I mean as long as she keeps giving you this BS. If she acts well, reward it of course, don't be a dick.

Sounds like you're beating yourself up in this situation man.

Well, if that's what she wants- Cool it off.

You can never have someone putting up alibi all the time.

Many girls her age is in the same situation. She need to get a grip of herself.

Don't tag along man.

I got over her pretty quick. At least at the conscious level. I went to one kegger the weekend after we broke up (we broke up on a Monday) and I realized - fuck relationships being single is so much fun. And in many ways, the freedom is amazing. But subconsciously, I feel like it's made me more stressful. I realized that since the break up, I've been less relaxed in general, more sensitive, and that inner voice in my head never seems to stfu. Really on edge all the time. Two nights ago I was having a bad day so at night I felt really lonely and thought about her again, despite the fact that I thought I was completely over her. I even considered contacting her. I guess I miss her.

I wouldn't want her back as a gf though. Even if she asked. Fuck relationships. Hopefully we can be fuck buddies.

Well I don't think about her all the time like I used to. And she's not the primary cause of my stress right now. It's the combination of school, issues with friends, and trying to improve my game that's stressing me out most.
And I probably miss her but no I wouldn't take her back. If she was kneeling in my room now giving me the best BJ of my life and asking me to take her back, the answer would be no. I want to stay single so I can improve my game before I graduate from university next summer.

But what's wrong with being fuck buddies with an ex? Excuse me if I'm being ignorant but isn't that what lots of people do? I figure it would be sex without the bullshit of a relationship.

having sex with her after a break up is a recipe for disaster.

its ok to be hurt by the way. its actually normal. you cared for her, loved her etc etc, so if it ends, of course youll be sad/lonley watever for a while. its expected. but it should last maybe couple months, then youll be in a different mindset and routine- assuming youve stopped contact and have moved on emotionally.

the problem with having sex with her now or later is that there is absolutely 0% chance that neither of you will develop/re-ignite/resume the feelings you had for each other.

why not just bang others? your in college for fucks sake. you shuld be banging a new chick every other week at least.

But I'm not someone who gets laid regularly. My level of game isn't there yet. I have inner game issues holding me back. And I get what you mean by we won't redevelop feelings for each other. And I'm cool with that. I don't want her back as a gf. But I still don't get what's wrong with guaranteed regular sex? I miss sex and I feel like if she gave me some now I would feel more confident in general.

Wouldn't it HELP my game in fact cause then it'll make me less desperate to get laid?

English isn't my first language but I think Juan meant the opposite.
If so, I totally agree with him and that's the reason why it's such a bad idea. If you are honest to yourself, you are not over her yet and even if you were, it's still a bad idea. If you keep her as a FB, chances are you will get emotionally attached again when all you want right now is getting DEtached from those feelings for her. Trust me, you're going to get burned!
You are someone who likes to stay in his comfort zone, doesn't want change and doesn't want to work for it... Who cares if your game's not solid yet! It will never be solid if you don't work on it properly. How do you do that? You go out and approach girls!