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PostPosted: Tue Nov 20, 2012 3:10 am 
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Not really PUA but there is this really annoying chick with a score of -1000 at my dorm. She never talks straight but always in sarcastic bitchy tone. She has a lot of friends because people like her humor. I really would not mind her that much until I realized she gossips about me, and also ten minutes ago she told my friend Becka that I hate her. I was only going into my room to do some homework, fucking Christ. She is poisoning a lot of people that I know, and as long as she remains in my circle she is going to ruin my relationships. Eradicating her will be impossible because she is everywhere and doing so will probably cause more hatred toward me. She is bothering my life. What should do to make her shut the fuck up?


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PostPosted: Tue Nov 20, 2012 1:57 pm 
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Kill her with kindness. Here's why. This person obviously wants to make you into an enemy. Therefore she needs you to provide the enemy vibe for her to feed off of. If you are friendly with her then it totally disarms her. How can she give you attitude and blast you to her friends when all you say to her is "What's up Sara, how is your day going?" What will happen is other people will see you being nice to her and when she attempts to badmouth you it will make her look bad.

The problem with this is that there will be a period of time before this starts to take effect. And during the interim you will have to bear the brunt of her negativity. You'll want to lash out but you have to keep it together and remain pleasant at all times. I've had people turn on me, and I give it right back to them, but eventually I decide to be the bigger person and I'll become nice again. Don't get me wrong, they'll still hate on you for a while, but eventually they'll realize that you are no longer emotionally invested in the conflict between the two of you and they'll start to come around. Give it a try.

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PostPosted: Tue Nov 20, 2012 6:21 pm 
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puaninja hit the nail on the head. dude is really on a roll today


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PostPosted: Thu Nov 22, 2012 4:13 am 
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It's strange but I understand why it would work. To scrutinize her would hurt me more than her. Thanks ninja :D


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