so I been doing brazilian jiu-jitsu for about 2 years now and lately I been competing is my passion and what I spend most of my free time on but everytime I try to use it on my free time on on my mid-game they look at me as if I'm an aggresive guy (which I'm not)

any advice of how to turn things around or if I shouldn't talk about my martial art background at all?

I am guessing, they might be intimidated by your high energy

Or do you just think they look you as such or has somebody really said "Hey, I don't like you , you are too aggressive for me!" ?

I think women are socially conditioned to fear men. This conditioning needs to be removed and you can do it by giving respect and love to women you meet and discussing things openly and with confidence.

If some woman is afraid, I'd suggest them to take on some martial arts too. It is good hobby.

yeah I usually get the "oh I don't like that I think is aggresive" and a bad vibe with it so I just give up and go to the next one

but you got a good point bro plus I have just started PU after a long time

thanks

Coming from a fellow martial artist, you could try to explain that BJJ isn't that aggressive of an art. And yes, you're probably too energetic, as most girls I've told that I train martial arts usually end up being turned on. You just have to say it the right way, don't brag about it, the same way you wouldn't brag about your car. And I'm pretty sure you could use wrestling as a sexual innuendo.

I also do BJJ, and dude.... USE THAT SHIT.

Girls LOVE to wrestle guys. Every girl I have been with wants to take me down lol. its a great way to get Kino and bypass ASD. Of the four girls I've slept with since I started BJJ, I used BJJ to start foreplay three times.

Tell them how much fun it is, and how all kinds of different people do it. Tell them lots of girls do it, that they'd be surprised... you can never look at someone and know they do BJJ. And make it a game! Tell them its awesome, tell them you wanna teach them how to choke you. Girls love the fact that they can choke guys, they get off on it. And it wont make you beta that you tap lol. It makes you alpha that you are teaching!

I had to comment on this, cuz I love using it. BJJ should HELP your pick up greatly.

I'll be honest here: if the girls think you are aggressive, you need to change how you are presenting yourself. Are you wearing tapout shirts and perhaps coming off as a braggart? Wait till they bring it out of you, and put it gently. They will be very intrigued.

It's easy. Tell her it's ironic that you spend so much time on martial arts when you've never been in a real fight.
You can even strengthen this if you mention a story where someone tried to start you and you didn't fight them.

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