Hi,

There's this problem I've been having.

Last night, my friend didn't want to go out to bars to meet people, so I decided to go on my own.

The night went really well, I went to 3 bars, approached about 12 sets (I know, crazy), some stuff worked some didn't, got 3 phone numbers, 1 girl bought me a drink etc. By the way, I am fairly new to the whole gaming thing, 2 months ago I broke up a 4 year relationship.

Anyway, I tell my friend how it went, I tell him that there are 2 things I learned last night:

1. No one thought I went alone, people thought I had a lot of friends.
2. The hottest girl I approached was possibly the shyest, and it seemed like no guy was hitting on her (She was an HB9). So I said, it seems like the hottest girls never get approached at the bars.

Anyway, my friend gets annoyed about all this, tells me he doesn't want to hear about me going out and gaming, says that I remind him of a friend of his who brags all the time.

Now for me, approaching 12 sets is huge, actually, approaching any stranger at all is a big thing. I am an introverted person with a lot of approaching anxiety. I don't go out to bars so I can find a girl to have sex. All I want is to interact with people, getting out of my comfort zone, getting to know people, flirting, enjoying life. It really bothers me that he can't understand this; he is my best friend, but I know I need to go out there to live a little.

How do you approach this kind of situation? I'm sure you guys have had instances where friends were annoyed about you talking about gaming.

ps: The reason I may be a bit better at it right off the bat is because I am a working actor/singer, so it does help me a little but I still get scared shitless.

Stop talking about it. Next time you wanna go, just hit him up and say lets go out and grab some drinks. When your out, open sets and introduce him to the girls. Chances are, he is probably scared to go out and talk to girls so you have to slowly start getting him in the scene.

If he doesn't game, and currently has no interest in it, then you're basically just taking him out and talking about yourself, and your interest (game)

Its like if one of my friends spent the entire night talking about golfing (which i have zero interest in) it would be really annoying.

you have to either get him interested or stop talking about game.

Good luck

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Because i can.

Thanks for the advice, yes he is interested in it but he admitted he's a bit rusty.

I talked to him about it and I think he gets it, and he's gonna come out to pickup girls with me. Basically I reminded him that he would have met so many hot girls if he would have gone out with me that night. I think he's more accepting since my motive is not to go out and find a quick lay. I actually want to meet people!

My friend is a mall gamer, he doesn't like the bar scene very much. I hate gaming in the mall but I am more comfortable in the bars/clubs.