I actually dig this girl. Which is weird. I never feel like that lately.

I met this girl in Vegas months ago (HB9). She came to a gig of mine last night. I invited her to that because I figured it'd be less likely to flake. I was right. Also it's an instant DHV when girls see me play and when they see me get complimented by like 10 people afterwards (both guys and hot girls).

The date went super well, we had a drink beforehand, we were flirting, a tiny bit of kino (I did the touch and pull away thing)... kissed her on the cheek a few times as we were walking back to her car. She was definitely into me, letting me touch her, hold her hand periodically... etc. She just moved to L.A. so I know she doesn't know many people either.

I kissed her outside of her car at the end of the night. We kissed for about 40 seconds, maybe longer. I did not want to escalate because I wanted to avoid buyer's remorse on her part, since I actually like this girl.

Then I said, "ooh.. you're a good kisser" midway through then 10 seconds later "no, you're a GREAT kisser." Then left her car, told her goodnight and we made plans for Sunday. NOTE - I have NOT texted her today and probably won't just in case I came on a little strong.

How did I do? I felt kinda dumb for complimenting her. I was a tad buzzed but, whatever. I'm used to just trying to bang them and hitting or missing and not caring, but this one I'd prefer not to screw up.

What should I do next? We have plans for Sunday. No time set, no place set, just said "let's hang out Sunday." Should I just hang out with her somewhere close to my house and invite her back to my place for a glass of wine or something?

lol man i wouldnt say it was a dlv but it does kinda come off a little kiss ass i guess. but for plans im telling u and i told this to many people on the forum. the best first hangout is a movie at your place. i know it sounds junior highish but its perfect and theres a reason why people do it all the time. First off u get 3 movies a comedy scary and chick flick. tell her to pick 1. next u need to get ice cream out and have alot of crazy ingredients whip cream sprinkles all the goodies and tell her your each gonna make eachother a bowl. next watch the movie get all cuddled up. GREAT 3hour kino. and you dont have to worry about talking to much.
U already covered attraction. next is comfort and this is a great way

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You're over-analysing it way too much. It's only a DLV if it comes from a place of you're not enough. These "DLV" "DHV" don't really exist. I can do "DLV" things and still be "DHV" because it comes from a place of complete natural congruence with who I am. In other words, it's the place that it's coming from that's important; not the word by word content. I know I'm enough simply because I'm a man. There's my DHV. My IOI?? She's standing in front of me.

"The Self is always coming through"

You'll be amazed by the stuff that you can pull when you're in alignment with your natural self...


FlaiR

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Greatness is never borned

This is probably the coolest post I've read on this forum. Thanks man. I owned that night. Of course it wasn't a DLV. If anything, after I ran the fucking night she should be honored that I called her a good kisser.

Update: We had plans for Sunday (apparently they were tentative, she had said she might be going home for the weekend in Vegas)... I texted her on Thursday (2 days after we hung out) and said "hey, the other night was fun. I know EXACTLY where I'm taking you on Sunday" and she wrote back "hey, I had a great time Tuesday too. But I will be in Vegas this weekend so I can't do sunday :/"

My first instinct was to freeze her out, but I kept texting her, had a little banter, and tried to reschedule for Monday. She didn't respond and still hasn't. So, I haven't hit her up again. What would you guys do? Honestly man, I would typically say "oh, I shouldn't have ___ and ___" but I demonstrated ridiculously high value this night. I honestly don't know what else I could've done. Like literally, I had the first date of a lifetime.

Amen.
This is EXACTLY what I'm always telling.
Great post.

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We are what we repeatedly do.
Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.

A great exchange of information.

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Dubli