Hey,

So I met this girl through some friends on a night out, she was attracted to me instantly and I ended up making out with her that night and staying at hers. there was a bunch of our friends staying over too so nothing happened. She added me on facebook and a week later I started talking to her and got invited out with her and some friends, we made out again and went back to hers, but once again I wasn't the only one there so she didn't feel comfortable doing much. Lots of dry humping after everyone else was asleep but that's it.

Anyway I ask her out for drinks the following week and all goes well, she invites me back to hers again and we end up in her bed in our underwear dry humping. At this point she is basically telling me she wants to be dominated but I acted like an idiot and stopped when I got LMR trying to take her underwear off. she then said we should probably go to sleep now and we had 4 more of these dry humping sessions over the night but I didn't try to escalate further because of the LMR I got earlier.

I completely screwed it up and now she sees me as a wimp, the next day I text her and she was responsive but stopped the convo shortly, I then text her 4 days later trying to set up another date but she said she was busy and offered no alternative, she said she would let me know. This was a week ago now and I've heard nothing.

I will most likely see her in person again in a few months, but it's not guaranteed, is there anyway I can salvage this and get another meet up?

This one is a hard case. Firstly if you want to salvage it, you have to start acting more dominant. But this is hard by only showing it in text, especially if you have failed. What you could have done if you are going to see her again. Is to go straight in and absolutely lead everything. Decide what is going to happen, and just show who is the boss.

Yeah, I will probably just leave it for now, I think my best chance is in person. I'm sure I'll run into her before Christmas

You screwed up so you don't have many options at this point anyway. I would recommend just going ballz out and next time you see her tell her that if you ever get the chance again you'll rip her clothes off her body and ravage her something fierce. If nothing else, this will at least show her that you have a different side to you, or that you are changed now, and that you are alpha.

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This situation can be saved, however you will have to work harder and be bolder...you may come out better taking this lesson and applying what did work on her to a new target, and revising what didn't work onto a new target as well.

Yep learn from it - has happened to most guys at some point or another! This looks a lost cause, seeing her again in a few months is wayyy too long. Since its a lost cause there is nothing wrong with going for broke since you having nothing at all to lose! Hence another couple of suggestions you may wish to consider:

1. firstly try speaking to her on phone or rapid texting (e.g. if you have 'SPAM' so you are both online with no time to think between messages). During this convo you can ramp up sex talk by discussing craziest places you have both had sex, etc and try and get her horny for another meet-up

2. You can play it very cool, invite her to a party, have some drinks and try again! Even better to talk to other girls at the party in front of her....

3. finally you could play the kind, sensitive card and say "it was really difficult last time cos I wanted to rip your clothes off but I knew we needed to get to know each other better first, I feel we have this connection where its like we've known each other for ages, never usually happens to me blah blah".....

Good Luck whatever you do!