Lets be honest here; we all have had girls that were attracted to us and were spending time with us at some time or another but for some reason they went cold... It could have been because you both were too busy, maybe she started seeing someone else, who knows? But how do you start hanging with her again? The last girl I tried to reignite interest with, I broke contact for about 4 months or so. One day I randomly hit her up on Facebook telling her that we should "get lunch and catch up." It worked but she went cold again shortly after our lunch date. What are some things you guys have tried? This is a tough question, i'm expecting answers from the very experienced guys out there....

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"Those who push themselves and are willing to face pain, exhaustion, humiliation, rejection or worse are the ones who become champions" -Style

Going cold is probably one of my biggest challenges. The thing is, that I am the one that end up going cold. There is this aspect to me, that I would rather fuck a good 7 that I dont know than a 9 that i know well. After i meet these girls and get to know them, they are what they are -normal girls, nothing special- so the allure of a stranger.

So anyways, here are my experiences with girls gone cold. Once upon a time I went out with this chick and she came to my place after we talked for a couple of weeks. We almost did it but I could not brake through some last minute resistance. That was honestly my only interest and in the following weeks things went cold. Then one day, out of the blue I contacted her again. This time she came over and we finished the job...

Now, me being me, I asked her what happened? Why did it go cold and here was her answer: There was some other guy that she was also talking to, she explored that option for a while and when it didnt work out she circled her way back to me. After our first meeting, I left her with a positive sexual experience that was incomplete and for which she was still very curious about. So when things didnt work out with the other guy, now she starts thinking about me again, she becomes curious about sleeping with me and the rest is history...

So how to get it reignited: Let the current energy pass and allow the interest to circle back around and swell back up.

just don't attempt to do this, and you will most likely succeed at doing it

meet new girls instead, and when you are bored or contacting a big pile of people, hit them up

but if at any point the girl that you want to ''re-igninite'' is important to you and you specifically want it to work out with her, you are probably shooting yourself in the foot for caring and it most likely won't happen

improve your game and don't even try to do this, just meet new girls, and get better at banging them, and have a big pile of old girls and flakes, and contact them every now and then in an attempt to run you game

if you have a specific girl in mind that is important to you before you have even slept with her, then you are probably not meeting enough girls often enough

So what was it specifically that you said out of the blue? Did you text her a simple, "Hey, whats going on?" or was it a little more personal like, "Hey, it's been a while... how yah been?"

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"Those who push themselves and are willing to face pain, exhaustion, humiliation, rejection or worse are the ones who become champions" -Style

It's more complicated than that; there are at least 3 girls I can think of right now that didn't work out the first time but I would love another shot at. It's not about just getting laid, there is something alluring about these girls I haven't fucked yet.

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"Those who push themselves and are willing to face pain, exhaustion, humiliation, rejection or worse are the ones who become champions" -Style

Its been a vary long time, however I am in a similar situation now. Went out with 3 girls about 2mo ago: 1 has BF, so all I have to do is wait and see if that relationship works out and if not, I will be there... Second One, had a connection with her and she went cold as a result of inaction. The first time she asked me to go out and meet her at bar -its was obvious what she wanted- but I was already in home for the night with my GF so I couldn't go out. So then made arrangements to stay at a friends house who lives right the street from her and invited her over and she flaked so I went cold on her. The third one, I never really realt a connection but we made out. I went out with her 2 times over a 1mo period -very sporadic. But here is my problem closing, I have a live in home GF so I have no where to take these girls. Now with all of them, there are great reasons and excuses for me to context them should I want to out of the blue: 1 was a customer of mine, the other I have a good connection, and the one with a BF had become somewhat close to one of my group of friends.

So as far as the women in the past: I worked with one, so it was easy to experience the day to day vibe and how it was changing back to sexual. The second one that came back around, I believe i texted her out of the blue. I dont recall what i said, but it was friendly and enough time had passed. I do think that when there is something between you and a girl and it just tapers off after a positive experience without you chasing them it gets them curious. She will wonder what happened to you and why you dont talk anymore. When you hang out with her and via texts, you can gauge her interest.

why is there something alluring about them?

by wanting to re-ignight things with old girls, are you really saying, you just don't want to meet new girls?

is it personality? cause you can meet new cooler girls

is it looks? cause you can meet new hotter girls

is it connection? cause you find a new girls to connect with

is it about ''the one that got away''? cause there will be plenty of that if you meet some new girls... way more then 3

if you are focused on specific girls from that past and they are important and you haven't slept with them, you are probably putting too much effort into specifics, and not enough effort into the game plan and executing it

there is no way to magically make a girl that is not interested, interested, she has to be wanting it too, and chasing after girls who have descided no thx, is a waste of time and more likely to push them further away, then to bring them closer, the only time it isn't a waste of time is when your game sucks ass, and you didn't even get to the point of a ''no thx'' instead you didn't do anything, and pussed out or psyched yourself into thinking it was a ''no thx'' when you didn't even actually get to that point and don't know what you are doing

all you have to do with old girls that are still in the pile is
1) hit them up
2) run your game as usual

if ^ this, doesn't work for you

1a) reduce contact with them
2a) improve your game/status
3a) repeat 1-2 after some time has passed

the girls from the past that you usually end up banging, are girls you usually cut off, not girls that cut you off, and it is often unfished buisness were they initiate with you and you capitalize and run your game, that's about all, if she doesn't want none, then that ship has sailed, some girls get boyfriends and come back later, some girls don't like your style then later on realize they miss you

it's always easier to meet new girls, then it is to fix old ones

I think we can all agree that reducing contact is a good idea. What about when they decide to give you a text after a couple of weeks? should you project some kind of reluctance in wanting to see them again? I want to know about the mind games

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"Those who push themselves and are willing to face pain, exhaustion, humiliation, rejection or worse are the ones who become champions" -Style

if they are initiating that's good, it shows they are somewhat invested, the idea is to reduce texting, switch to calling, make your attention more easily available through face to face, less available via text and social media

if they are initiating that's good, it shows they are somewhat invested, the idea is to reduce texting, switch to calling, make your attention more easily available through face to face, less available via text and social media