The girl I like at my job is constantly texting this guy throughout the whole night, but when he comes to visit (bar) she's not flirty or touchy with him. However, with me, we barely text and when we do, we keep it very short (I don't want to be her friend or texting buddy) but she is more flirty in terms of touch and eye contact in person with me than the other guy. Also, I notice she texts with him a lot more when I text and SPAM with other girls in front of her.

We may be going out to the club with a bunch of mutual friends this weekend, but I don't wanna escalate and make moves if she's involved with this guy since we work together and I need to save face. My gut tells me she is using this guy to make me jealous, but I may be wrong...She gets hit on by everyone, but is pretty shy and doesn't show a lot of attention to guys. Do you think my idea of her using this guy to make me jealous is something a girl would do or do you think she just straight up likes him? Also is it ok to ask her in a playful way if she's hooking up with him or something or find out for sure?

i think shes using him to make you jealous. shes obviously interested in you. make the move man if it back fires you can laugh about it later.

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It sounds like he's her texting buddy. It sounds like she's interested in you. Ignore him completely. Don't ask about him. Just work on relations between you and her. Touch her and stuff.

The way i think texting works best is this.

you've had a great night with a girl, you got her number.

there's 2 options, you're interested in her for sexual meanings, or for LTR (also sexual meanings, but you know what i mean).

Nr 1 -> text short, powerful and combine lots of humour with flirts
Nr 2 -> text short, powerful same as nr 1 but after a day 2, try forging more of a personal band, with flirts and humour.

There's a huge difference, forging a personal band makes a girl feel special, you've already shown her interest by being flirt at start, and by setting a day 2. Make sure your day 2 has had alot of context (Physical escalation, fun times, rapport, ...)

Yeah, that's what my gut was telling me. I mean this guy makes her laugh a lot, but I always try really hard not to show jealousy when he comes in. I was working and it was her day off and she came in with the guy and they were laughing and having a good time and I completely ignored them, but once in awhile she would be like "hey, come take a shot with us" or "why do you look so mad I thought you were a happy drunk" just shit like that.

It sounds counter-intuitive, but girls usually don't text all day with guys they are into right? Hence the name texting buddy. I think she enjoys his company and she laughs a lot with him, but I just can't feel any sexual tension between them like we have. I wish I had the balls to just fucking go for it, but this girl is seriously impossible to read. I would, but I need to know she's into me before I make the move because we work together. I feel like she purposely gives me less attention because she's shy and doesn't want to telegraph too much interest (because I play it cool with her and get attention from girl customers at the bar). I feel like she does shit like this to get me chasing. Is this something shy hot chicks do?

You will never know for sure with any girl, under any circumstances. Just go for it. The worst that will happen is she'll be flattered but give you some bullshit excuse about how she's going through a tough time and just wants to be friends or something like that.

We both know she's at least moderately interested in you. That should be enough for you to jump in and work your magic.

While we are on the subject...what exactly is a "texting buddy," how does one become one, and why do girls want/have one?

a texting buddy is basically the same as a pen pal...its where people just text and possibly never hook up

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Ive read that texting is a bad strategy all together and it should be avoided. That being said, its very likely he has fallen into the 'Texting Zone'

i believe that they are just friends, he might even be gay or at least she has no sexual interest in him, i think she turns to him for advices on men, and/or uses him to make you jaloux

i think you should just go for it!

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Im just more curious than anything...why girls have text buddies..wouldnt a girl text most to the guy she is most interested in?

Also, if the attraction is there and she likes me already, is it ok to ask about this tetx buddy? And can i be more direct verbally saying i like u when attraction is already there? I was going to ask her in a funny way like oooo u and xxx?? U go girl! With a wink and smile

Well girls have guy friends for everything. Some girls have guys for sex, some guys for company, some guys for comfort, some for shopping buddy, dining buddy everything. I will tell you, is the girl hot enough she got probably guy friends for everything. Thats how it is, the guy who gives her nice dinners does not needs to be her boyfriend, but he hopes he is. They are all orbiters, she keeps most of them while some of they still thinks they can get something. She is doing it to get all her needs satisfied. Now a days, girls want guy friends who can be everything for them except give the sex part.

I was a text buddy in a weird way,but I actually got sex. Text buddy doesn't always mean friend zone,she could really like your company and still want more than that,the diff is I was always flirty and never gave her that friend vibe,but I was also there for her when she needed me,so was she. So I don't know that's my experience.