Hi guys, I'm a college student in Cleveland.
A freshman deciding between Biomedical Engineering and PreMed.

I'm from the Southtowns in New York. My school was 99% white and I was one of the 4 Asians in the school. It must have been the social pressure that caused me to have a lack of confidence and therefore lack of success with girls. It was the dumb precognition that Asians were not successful.

Well, the summer after my junior year I did some stupid stuff. I'm just really glad that I hadn't done anything even more dumb, or got into even more trouble. Got into a downward spiral with my parents because I was sobering up from alcohol and weed, and eventually I did sober up thanks to them. I had a lot to think about.

The next year's summer I was reflecting on what I really should do with the rest of my life. I was smart, and I had strong resolve. I knew that if I wanted to be happy with my life it wasn't just about being smart and working hard. It was a lot about having great social skills. It was around this time that was when I stumbled on the book "Social Engineering: The Art of Human Hacking" by Chris Hadnagy. The title was so provocative that I bought that book almost instantly.

That book led to another book, and another, going from Art of Seduction by Robert Greene, Paul Ekman's Emotions Revealed, Reading Body Language by Allan Pease, and even to books on NLP. I've also read part of Magic Bullets.

The reason I only read part of Magic Bullets and Art of Seduction is that while I found the books to be very interesting I really didn't know what to do with the knowledge or even if it was credible. From the other books I've begun to be more sensitive to facial expressions and body language, but I found teaching myself these things were very challenging and the progress was slow.

So how long have I been using PU? Not very long to say the least. I did find a glimpse of the success but not much.

My original objective in reading so much in such short period of time was more directed at my own success in all aspects of social life, especially in the workplace and business. But I keep thinking about the women in my life because that is what I really want right now. I'm only human.

Goodnight

I'll stop by tomorrow morning.

Hey man! Best of luck with your romantic life goals!

Hey man -- what's up. First off -- good of you to straighten up and get your life correct and put your education and family first. Girls are great and all, but I know a lot of dudes who get a lot of play, yet don't have any money, or a decent job, or even their own place to live. It might look cool on the outside, but those guys are gonna be fucked in a few years time if they don't get their priorities straight.

Example: I read The Art of Seduction too, and while Casanova was notorious with the ladies, he also died broke, lonely and disease-ridden. In other words, be careful what you ask for because you just might get it.

With that said, make sure you stay focused on self-improvement first and foremost. Most women love confidence, and if you are successful IN YOUR OWN MIND, they will see that confidence and respond.

This forum has all the advice you need, but in a nutshell, just get out there and approach women, and show them what you have to offer. Don't take "rejection" personally, take it as a learning experience. To paraphrase one my favorite philosophers, Bruce Lee, there is no such thing as failure -- only lessons on the road to success.

Yeah I've been enjoying my life at my college for a while. It wasn't too hard to get the attention of the girls in my group of friends, but for some reason I am having trouble bonding with the guys.

Weird, right? I consciously display strong body language, and try a lot of other little things but the men of the group generally don't seem to really like me.

Well, you said in your first letter that your goal was success with the ladies so why worry so much about the guys? So long as you're not being a dick and -- most importantly -- you're being yourself, it doesn't really matter what they think.

Real friends can be few and far between and they accept you for what you are. If you're doing your thing and not hurting anybody else then fuck 'em if they can't deal with that.

One thing is for sure though -- being insecure and seeking out the approval of others isn't the answer. Remember: some of the most successful people in life (Tom Brady for example) are also often the one's who have the most haters. If you're going to be successful on any scale, then you need to be prepared for that.

To paraphrase another saying: "I don't necessarily know the key to success, but I know that the key to failure is trying to please everyone."