| Yepaz I'm 21 and I cant pick up women worth a damn and I need help! Tis ya boi a noob heeya lookin for capital advise. Lol
Anyway seriously yeah,
I've search the net for months looking and going through tips and answers to probably almost everything that I've been informed about (and could think about) like where to pick up women, posture, gestures, and yes even the good ol what to wear, what to say, and *cringe* pick up lines, and it's been nothing but a loop and it's been hard for me to figure out some of my errors. I meen, to get a kick start in talking to women, I tried making it a job for me to at least great every single women I pass by. However I kinda stopped. Also I never managed to make common conversation either.
Looking at myself, probably one of the biggest problems is my voice volume. Though I think I may be getting better, I tend to come off soft sometimes and when I have to repeat, I get annoyed (my smile sometime fades) and I know she gets annoyed, and then the trouble heh. So I'm trying to keep my speech as "voicy" as possible.
Second is, I have no problem having common conversation with a girl. That's not my main issue in my opinion. Providing she's interesting and has something to talk about and dont end her sentences after like 5 words, then we can keep it going. My main thing is finding subjects which leads to the problem of approach.
Coincidentally, most previous girls I had were due to situational irony, and hook up, which never really helped me in approaching a girl off the blue, and that's where I die lol. I'm not the type of guy who comes up to a group or just one girl and say "Hi my name is ___". It seems very cheesy to do so and raises the question for her, "Why do I care?". I'd rather catch her attention with something that either she can relate to off the bat, or she can "groove" off of through the convo.
Yes I know this is limited by situation and individual, but there has to be a way, a procedure of observation to use as tools for subjects and backup lines before approaching her. (Like she has a book but you dont know who the hell the author is or even the subject about the book, then talk about that interesting dress cause the next question if you do ask about the book you dont know about will more than likely be the subject of the book leading to an uninteresting result)
An important tool that I've seen here is that you have to know how to think on your feet. For me a successful point for me would be that I'm able to pick out subject out the blue even if I really dont know much about them. Just so we can constantly keep talking and sparking her interest.
God forbid I try talking to a single girl in a group. For me that just screams trouble and puts me in a very "oky" and uncomfortable situation. It's a basic "kill me now" for me.
Welp wordy me there I go. If only I could talk as much as I type damn lol.
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