I did a mistake by telling the girl I like her on the second date.

after I said that, I regreted that but it was already too late.

now I know that the only solution for this is to try to make her to be more interested in me than I interested in her.

but can someone please help me to find a the way to do it (FAST!??)

because I felt that after I said that all the crazy tension disappeared.

sorry to say that you really blow it. the moment you let everything out in the open you ruined the fun. it might already be too late. the only thing you can do now is not make a big deal out of it and dont act like it changes anything. just keep running with the same kind of things you were doing before you said those words and maybe wont think its a big deal either.

when you told her you liked her you kinda placed a tonne of pressure on her. it was like she was being forced to respond in some way and that probably turned her off.

just do those things and try not act like you have a lot invested in her and maybe she will loosen up again and relax

thanks for the inflated answer - I"ll try to do it..

For future reference, you probably don't want to let any of those 'softy' emotions out until you've known (and sexed her) quite a bit.

Maybe next time, if you want to convey a good amount of interest, say you love something about her rather than saying you love/like HER in general.

"God I love looking into your beautiful eyes" while having maintained eye contact for a good amount of time.

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Disappear for a little bit. Be a little bit of a challenge. If she texts you or calls you, don't pick up right away.

Let things slow down a bit. Give it a week or two and then ask her out again. This time, hide those emotions.

This is fixable with a little bit of time.

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Zan tells a story in one of his audio products of how he met an HB10 in a store in New York and after a brief conversation the girl asked "are you inviting me on a date?" Zan replies "of course I am you're beautiful" He got the date on the grounds he was the only one of hundreds who she had asked who didn't try to disguise his desire and manned up totally (just as an alpha man does) Your inner game needs to be rock solid for this to work though.

You don't ever tell her how much you like her. And even when she asks you if you like her, you just respond "You're pretty cool."

What I would do is backpedal now. Call her up and tell her that you feel like you could really like her a lot, but you don't want to jump into a relationship and that you both should play things slow. You say in such a way to give her the impression that you feel like she is coming on too strong as well, and you're wanting her to back off as much as realizing that you need to back off too. Then the next time she see's you, she won't be thinking that you have an agenda to get into her pants, since you already admitted you just want to chill and get to know her first.

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thank you all for all the tips.
i will try to change my game from now on.. it will be really not natural for me but i need to do that because my inner game is weak.. thanks again!

You blew it man. I rather show someone I am interested in them than tell them. Once you do that (not in all cases) then they have the upper hand. It's like giving them power. Never chase either man. Just hold your ground be confident and don't make a scene out of anything. What ended up happening with you two?

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I won't say you "blew it" as the previous guy, but I do have to say that it doesn't really help, I,m talking from experience here. Unless she's really ugly, but even then sometimes...

The message this sends to her is first doubt, because you really don't know her too well to really like her, so it sends probably the wrong message.

But the biggest message is that it's too easy from now on for her. She basically has you eating right out of her hand, because she doesn't have to do anything anymore, you've already fallen for her. You didn't make her work enough to get you attention or "liking".

You basically spoonfed her and gave yourself away too soon. She basically had to make no effort, and now it doesn't seem fun anymore or intriguing. You have to make her keep guessing or she will quickly lose interest. If she can have you too easily she won't want you. It's desire.

As with anything in life, the more effort put into something, the more valuable that thing will be perceived. If you're readily available, then you are not valued enough. There has to be some kind of a challenge.

While this is common in the majority of cases, direct approach works well, but on rare occasions, and rarely in North America. I know it sucks, believe me, the game ultimately sucks. But once you understand its underlying rules, it makes it easier to win and gain some kind of satisfaction.

In this situation, I would tell you to disappear for a while. Do your own thing, and if she contacts you, great. Appear disinterested and she'll be wondering what the hell is going on; reel her in slowly. If she doesn't, move on man. Try to find things that make you happy, even if that doesn't include a woman in the picture.

It's still weird to me how all this stuff works. My mind sort of... doesn't see the logic in it, but the truth is, breaking off contact and being a challenge sometimes really does work. I stopped texting this girl who was messing me about a bit, broke off contact completely, and then... 4 days later, "WHY AREN'T YOU TALKING TO ME ANY MORE "

I've learned a lot from these forums, and there are some absolute gems of advice out there.

It doesn't matter what you say, it matter HOW you say it. It also depends greatly on the situation. Try to gain massive inner game, then calibrate. Inner game is normally just confidence and to instinctively handle a situation.

I'd have no problem to tell a woman I like her if I feel like saying it. Even if it's the first day I meet her. Truth is that situation is really difficult, I have to admit it, but it could happen. Set boundaries for learning and break them when you are confident enough. Don't mind blowing something good, but do learn a lot when you do. Don't care about a single person too much. If you do, it should be because you are with her, not because of your need/loneliness.

First time I tell a woman I like her, is normally shortly before or after I kiss her. And I always smile. More like tongue-in-cheek smile. Even more C&F AFTER saying it.

Now, if you DO say it a bit early,

Remember how you felt when you won that basketball match when you were 16 yo? Or after your first kiss? That's true happiness. Use that emotion or anything similar to say "I like you". Better if you are laughing. Also it's really difficult that you are having THAT much fun alone, so she'll be also happy.

Remember when a person got interest in you and you felt like you would NEVER ever meet anyone like her? How she is the ONLY one who can have some interest in you? You should try not to feel like that (meet more women), and if you feel it or anything similar, that is definitely NOT the right feeling for saying that you like her. That's just you trying to rush things.

Another thing that's pretty obvious in theory but I guess hard in practice, don't give a fuck when you say it. If you say it for the RIGHT feeling (as explained before), do you REALLY think she doesn't already know? It's not SO important that you say it. Do you also know how your face changes after saying those words? If you don't have a lot of practice, it goes from happiness to deadly serious face. That's definitely not good. It says: Until now, I am "fun". From now on, I am "serious". Cheer up. She likes the fun you, she likes you, so don't act as someone you are not. Also, you DO NOT expect a direct answer (no answer assume is a good thing), so no reason to worry (;

Other thought, have a valid reason. Why do you like her? No, don't say because she's damn hot. If you happen to really say it too early, your brain has to find really fast a valid reason and join everything into a sentence. Even more if you don't know her feelings for sure. Not the best, but will save your ass a couple of times. "I like you [dead silence]" is much worse than "I like you, you remind me to the brat little sister I never had ".

EDIT: regarding what other said. Realize how they assume that, after you say "I like you", you just become passive while waiting that she likes you. That's one way, the way of saying it and being serious afterwards. The way of saying it and giving her full power afterwards. If you say it and don't care or even make it fun, you retain the power. If you say and she's not sure how much you mean it or even if you DO mean it, while she probably feels a bit of it, you retain the power or could even get some more. First time(s) say it as a compliment, not as a marrying proposition lol. It's your waiting/expecting face what gives her power, not the sentence itself. THOUGH, this is 100% accurate IMHO "when she asks you if you like her, you just respond 'You're pretty cool.' ". That's almost always a proper shit test.

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Hey hey,

can you give us a little bit more information on the situation and the context of how you said it? As stated above its quiete a difference if you say it in a club, for goodbye or in a serious manner. You can trigger then some way different reactions. Especialy the: like I want to be together with you but I dont have the balls to say it to you.

Hejsan

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you fucked up, but not to worry - move on to the next gal. you eff up with her? learn from your mistakes, then perfect your game with the countless numbers of women out there.

that girl texts you again? ignore her... you're onto greener grass.

What's important is your attitude and how you view things,... if your insecure and looking for validation you have already lost.

Saying "I like you" comes across as luke warm and vague, what you could have said is "I want you", Then your a Man going after what he wants.

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