So last night I was thinking to myself "Wow. I am getting good at this." Today I'm thinking "Holy shit, when the hell will I get good at this?" Yesterday I was talking with two girls; had a date planned out with one for today, and had a date planned for tomorrow (today). One of them I was going to meet up at a place close to our university -didn't happen. Her excuse: "Oh guess what, class happens to be canceled for me today, what a coincidence!" This is like the 2nd or 3rd time she's flaked. But SHE brought up us going out this round, plus, we had an awesome convo on the phone last night and it made me think this might actually go somewhere. So after she texted me that, she says "Hey lets plan for next Tuesday, instead. Cool?" Since it's like the 3rd time she flaked I straight up told her "Nah, nvm. I don't feel like it anymore." This girl tells me things like "Oh, I know I'm beautiful." Or, "I'm way prettier than that other girl you're talking to." So I was just like, fuck it, let me burst this chick's ego. I laid that comment on her. She was super surprise, asking me things like, "You don't feel like it? Are you okay?" I didn't respond for a while and she was saying things like "Wow...you're being rude." I told her she flaked too often and she said that it happened for actual reasons. I ended up just telling her that I'd check my schedule and let her know. I don't even know if I want to go anymore anyways. What do you guys think I should do about this one?

Now, for girl number two...this shit is also baffling. This girl texts me a few nights ago flirting with me, telling me I looked "handsome the other day" and we end up setting a date for Friday (today). I was looking forward to it. Then she canceled yesterday say that she has things to do for school and meeting up in a group. Also, I'mma add that I've invited her out to toke some hookah with me about a month back, in which she told me that she stopped doing it. Anyways, me and my boys go to a hookah lounge to get some studying done, and guess who I see there chilling with some poor bastard? Yes -Her. I thought well fuck me...she was sitting out in the patio and she could see me HD quality right in front of them as I walked by. The guy says sup to me like he knows me and she looks at me a little surprised and says "Hey!" as I walk past them. I can't exactly rmr what I said, but I just lightly acknowledged her and said hey and went on my way inside. What the fuck though....What do you guys think I should do about this one? I'm thinking that the next time she texts me/comments on my fb that I'mma give her no reply...

But seriously...what the fuck? It seems that right when I feel things are getting good, that I've improved, that I this crap happens and I feel like I'm back where I started. What. Should. I. Do?

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For girl number one, I probably wouldn't have told her that I don't feel like going out with her anymore. It makes you look kind of upset, or like you're pouting. It doesn't really matter in this particular scenario since three flakes in a row is way too many. Just learn for next time. I would have just said "no worries, have a good one" and left it at that. If she tried to reschedule, I would have said "I'm not sure. I have a busy week coming up. I'll have to let you know", then never contacted her about it. Some girls like to keep rescheduling things over and over after each flake, knowing fully that they'll flake next time also. I'm not 100% sure why they do that, but my best guess is that they aren't really sure about you. They're moderately interested, but not quite enough to where they want to make any moves. So they're pretty much keeping you on the back burner just in case they finally make up their minds. Once again though, I'm not 100% sure on that.

For girl number two, I have a drastic conclusion that I jumped to immediately after reading your post. I could be very wrong, so keep that in mind. But maybe that guy she was with works there, or is simply a regular customer. She could be juggling a few guys at once and doesn't want to have multiple guys at the same venue since that could cause problems. That could be why she said she doesn't smoke hookah anymore; it would prevent you two from ever going there again. I wouldn't give up on this one quite yet. Give her one more chance to go out with you, and if she flakes or something weird happens, drop her.

Don't let these events get to your head. The worst case scenario is that you gained some experience.

For girl #1 you should have told her you weren't interested unless she wanted to make it up to you. Make it playful and teasing but deliver the message: You're not waiting around. Stop texting her after you deliver the line "Hmmm, you'll have to make it up to me. Second time you've flaked on me babe and my schedule is filling up with other offers already. Tick tock. "

After this give it a day and if she messages you and thinks you're ignoring her just say you were busy with college work when you get around to texting her the next day. Don't go too far and say you were meeting an "old friend" unless you have a lot of rapport with her.

For #2 just take it easy and be willing to ditch her. Have fun with her, be careless and tell her she's going out with you for drinks that night. If she makes up an excuse just forget about her.

Honestly, if you're playing women to the point that you've got their numbers and got them on fb you're doing something right but there's a lot in to the PUA scene that i've learned you just need to know. You could have come on too strong for a sliver of a second a month back and they'll remember it and act around that by not taking you seriously or not being around you.

Also, what the fuck dude. You've known one of them for two months and not sealed the deal yet? Have you even kissed one of them yet or just flirted with them? A month is a long time to drag this thing out. If you're really getting anywhere you want to get some sort of closure within a decent time frame, not allow it to be strung along for months on end 'cause you will be zoned.