I'm in this new social circle. This girl from it showed interest in me when I first met her. I didn't want to be mess the social circle thing up so I just casually talked to her.

Ran into her at a bar and she was drunk. She was showing so much interest in me and was very close to me/touching. She told me I was really cute. I'm an idiot and I didn't go for a kiss. I normally would have but a few reasons stopped me. Anyway, got the number.

I don't really know anything about her/whether she's dealing with another guy etc.
I texted her and her responses were showing that she was putting effort into it and asking me questions.

Texted her the other night, probably a bit too late, and haven't received a response.

So a couple questions -

I'm basically thinking I should just not contact her again?

Also, I'll prob see her again through the social circle. Would that be awkward?

If it's been 2-3 days, go ahead and text her again. She could have overlooked the text or something. If she doesn't reply to that, fuck it.

And no, things won't be awkward unless you make them awkward.

Here's thing about girls who put themselves out there and get rejected. They feel self conscious afterwards. Sound familiar? Ever crashed and burned. This is most likely how she feels.


This girl went completely out of her way to show interest when you joined the social circle. DUDE! It's a social circle, so why are you JUST NOW getting her number? I have one big group text for my social circle, which means you should have her number by now!

Okay, you didn't ask for it yet, She probably just rationalized this as "Another shy guy". You showed up at the bar and there you are and there she is. AWESOME! She has rationalized you're shy so SHE puts herself out there. AND YOU FIND EXCUSES TO NOT KISS HER? Do not be surprised if she is no longer interested in you at all.

The way you acted practically said to her "I have no real interest in you" even when her overall message was "I want you NOW".

In conclusion, don't assume things just because she gave you her number. You didn't kiss. She was touching you. And after all that you ask for her number?! What's the overall message you gave her? "I want to JUST be friends" you friend zoned yourself. Realize that your "worries" for the social circle are probably the same worries she has. She WAS texting you and being polite to AVOID ANY AWKWARDNESS within the social circle. If this was your goal of being friendzoned, which sounds to me like it was, then you have nothing to worry about in terms of awkwardness and whatnot unless you make it awkward (as Snarg pointed out)

She's interested. Don't invest much, just ping her every now and then with the ultimately objective of planning for a meet-up. Things are only as big a deal as you make them out to be, pursue other leads, but also keep this one on the periphery, work every lead to its end/completion.

Thanks for the posts guys. I think I'll prob be seeing her with the social circle soon. Should I text her before that or just wait to see her in person?