Hey Guys, Mr Charizma Here..

I went out today for the second time solo sarging to break into the habit of just approaching with confidence and opening successfully. The first day 0 approaches, i was way too nervous and the approach anxiety held me back. Today 3 approaches and even approached a group of two girls, all successful in terms of being recieved well. However I struggled with knowing how to lead from the opener into an actual conversation and all the interactions ended with something along the lines of "Yea I just wanted to ask you that, it was nice meeting you.." Any help fellas? What are some tips and good ways to lead from any opener into a conversation?

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Mr. Charizma

SHIT! There's something wrong with my cell phone. (Whats wrong with it?) Well its just that... your numbers not in it.

It all leads back to the basics. Conversational skills.

A simple exercise that can work wonders is to talk everyone you can. This includes both women and men. That's it. Whether it's a train journey, strolling down the street, the supermarket, a night club, whatever. Strike up a conversation with that person and find out some interesting facts about them. Not only will this help with approach anxiety, it will also improve your conversational skills, help you to think on the spot and at times you will make new friends.

^ Once you get into the habit of constantly talking to people, the next step is changing the way you preceive a particular situation.

What I mean is, say you are at a club and see a hot girl. Treat this exactly as you would if you were doing the above exercise. It's just another random person. Don't make her a big deal, you don't even know her. By treating the situation this way, you are eliminating the pressure you put on yourself in the first place to 'approach with confidence and open successfully'.

At first, concentrate on getting to the know the girl and find out some nice qualities about her. Don't focus on anything else. Forget number closing, kino, escalating etc. Once you get confortable going out, talking to a random girl and having basic conversation.. you can be more flirtatious, implement kino, escalate, kiss her etc.

Being socialable, in my opinion, is a key skill that is often missed out amongst all the material on the internet. Don't take my word for it though, give it a shot and see if it helps you.

PS. I'm willing to bet the only way the interaction ended the way it did was because you were more in your head than in the present with her. Don't be afriad to bruise your ego and get rejected. You never know how far an interaction can go if you end it.

- Kang

It sounds like your nerves are making do things you don't want to do.

Tryinf visualizing, see yourself doing what you want do and believe you will succeed until you see otherwise.