Hello guys, teenager here and i have quite the situation for you:

just a week ago i met this girl at a party (yeah, cheesy backstory, i know). one thing led to another and we kissed 1-2 times. The next day she liked a comment i made on the party (on fb) and poked me. When i poked back, guess what - she poked again. The hunt begins i guess. So i add her as a friend and she messages me shortly after. We have some nice conversation about the party and what we both had to do afterwards. she contributed pretty well so i decided mi might have a good lead.

Since then for the next 3-4 days it was always her who messaged me first. I managed to keep a good frame and not get too cocky (i have a reallu f***ing bad experience with that) and she gave me some IOIs like saying she's been thinking about me after i bantered about some obscure fb emotes she sent me.

I grabbed on to this and took her out for coffee 2 days ago, which went pretty well imo, she didnt try flaking (although she probably gave me a not so subtle shit test, asking me about the reasons) and i sisnt stagger or anything, we even exchanged numbers in the end. About the coffee itself (i had a chocolate anyway) I didnt initiate any kino (i mentioned she has a bf according to fb - it's with a name, not just "in a relationship") - no hand caressing, no kissing, just eye contact with triangular gazing and the hello and goodbye hugs. She contributed a lot once again, it was at least 50/50 and she didnt even hint about me paying the entire bill, we just split it like normal people.

Yesterday, while she was asking me about what i was doing she sent me a kiss emote and apologized for it saying it was a mistake after i replied i was playing a game, then asked me what game it was, at which moment i just told her i was going to bed and ended. I even gave her a little bit of validation (which she probably deserved anyway) on a topic of picking out presents. The next day, just after the convo on fb died out, she mentioned shad a good time on thursday but that it passed too quickly, mentioning that i am an interesting person (please tell me this does not equal a f***ing friend) to which i replied with us being able to see each other again soon. Then she said something along the lines of "alrighty " and i left it at that, no talking today.

So, i think i managed it pretty well up until now but i want to hear advice about proceeding and also if i made any stupid mistakes from what you could read. My main worry is her dropping the BF/friend bomb after all this initiation and IOIs.
(Also feel free to move the toic to day 2's or relationships if it fits there better, idk.)

where's your question?
stop playing games.
be a man and escalate on her

It's very obvious she's interested in you.

A not-so-surprising fact about women is that most of them cannot handle being single. If they're in a relationship, they'll stick with it no matter how miserable they are until they find someone new, then they jump ship and go out with the new guy instead. That's probably what is happening here. An alternative theory would be that her current boyfriend isn't giving her enough attention and is using you to fill that void, but she still has feelings for him and she's just using you. But it doesn't sound like that's the case here.

One mistake - and don't worry, it's not that big of a deal, but something you should keep in mind for next time - is that you didn't kiss her when you went out again. You already kissed at the party, so you basically took a few steps back by not kissing the second time around.

Obviously, she didn't send the kissing icon on accident. That's actually pretty cute; it's one of the most common excuses women use to do that kind of thing. Get her to go out with you again, and this time touch her and finish things off with a kiss. I don't care how nervous you are or how awkward you feel at the end of the date; alpha up and kiss her. Good luck.

I knew I should have escalated a bit more on the coffee thing or maybe even just a goodbye kiss. Hell, I didnt have a problem doing that at a party even though i was only tipsy and she looked way more sober than me. I don't need alcohol to man up lol

Thinking about going for a walk in the park while it's not cold as balls yet so i could k-close easier on some bench
Still, thanks for the advice and lets hope her bf doesnt do martial arts or i'm in for a surprise sparring session
(and no, i don't use that many emotes in convos with girls)