That explains really well why I feel so ill-at-ease with what you've posted. This is so much about ego, and when you're talking about potentially becoming a father figure to young children (who you've already admitted you weren't very nice to), that's a little disturbing.

You're reaching. I'm concerned about your ex, you're exhibiting borderline stalking behavior with your mindset alone. It may be fruitful to call a local crisis line, because you are sounding unstable at this point.

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+ I think the OP is confused about the very definition of PUA. I know many must assume that PUA is all about fucking girls, getting what you want then leaving.

I personally don't think it is. PUA to me is all about getting the girl to respect you on an equal level that you respect her so that the mindgames that girls love to play aren't happening anymore of that you have control over it.

Also you keep saying in your posts that your this mega-alpha guy who always gets the girl that he wants. We don't care how alpha you are so stop stating it, it just makes you sound like a douche. In fact the people at my university who go around stating that they are "alphas" and actually use the word have lost MAJOR respect from girls and guys alike. At my halls a guy who called himself "the alpha of the block" now has nobody to live with because everybody thinks he is an arse. This is what you are portraying.

All in all from my point of view.

1) You sound like an arse.
2) You just want her because she left you for a "fugly" guy.
3) She deserves to be left alone, she has kids. Stop causing more added stress in her life.

Also Alphas don't:

1) State they are alphas, alphas do not care what others think of them.
2) Alphas do not judge others based upon their own standards.
3) Alphas DO NOT ask a girls friends for advice or help.
4) Alphas DO NOT harass a girl.

Apart from that, her parents don't like you, her friends don't like you and shes made her decision.

In all seriousness, this has nothing to do with pickup, but more to do with harassment. This guy sounds as though he's one loosened screw away from hunting this poor girl down, rolling her up in plastic wrap and tossing her in his trunk.

Agreed. Prancing around in a tutu is more alpha than calling yourself alpha.

You know what they say. If you love someone, sometimes you have to let them go.

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So, you guys were all right. There, I said it. So please don't rub it in with "I told you so." I fucked up. I'm young and this is just one of those things I had to play out for myself and see where it went. Like all of us, I have an ego, that's part of what made this so hard, but also, in spite of what those of you above thought or not I did genuinely love this girl and was willing to make a difference with her. She's coming up fast on age 30, and used words like "practical, security" blah blah blah when talking about this guy. It just doesn't hurt as much anymore looking back at this. Oh well, I don't want to expound on it anymore than I have to. What's important is I've realized what kind of man I was here and what kind of man I want to be, and I never want to be this vulnerable again. I just introduced myself properly to the forums on hello-all-i-live-in-manhattan-and-refus ... 53793.html

Happy New Years all.

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