So there's this girl I want to be with...she threw a party at her house last night, and I was there. She was flirting with a guy close to the end of the night, and kept looking at me (I was giving her a pretty mad look once in a while when I'd notice her looking at me). At this point, it was just my friends, her, her roommates, and the kid. Eventually he noticed that I was getting pissed, so he left... I was pretty messed up since I drank and smoked, so I asked her if she likes the kid. She said "No, I don't even know him."

For some strange reason, I felt like it would be a good idea for me to tell her that I'm attracted to her, and we had a long talk, in private...she kept saying she was confused, and wanted time to think about it. In the end, I stayed over and slept with her in her bed, but we didn't do anything sexual.

So my question is, is she not into me and just saying that she's "confused" to let me down easy? Or is she actually confused...she said she didn't want to get cheated on (I'm in a frat, and the brothers have a pretty bad rep of cheating on girlfriends, etc). Regardless of what she said, she wanted me to be with her last night, and she wouldn't let me leave...soo I'm pretty fucking confused. What should I do next?

you slept in her bed and didn't make a move?

Se owns the frame and has all the power. Not good.

retreat, let her really get confused and chased you.

If I just retreat, what's stopping another guy from coming into the picture and get her?

So you saw someone playing with a toy you really want and decided to throw all your eggs in one basket at once. Good job...Not. The fact that you didn't even make a move in her bed also confuses the shit out of me. I have no idea where to even start here. This is damage control right now. Back off a bit

She's a virgin and has only kissed one other guy besides me. I wasn't sure what to do.