Just like courage is not the abscene of fear, but the mastery of it...You will never be able to rid yourself of lust. You can only control it.

The problem with lust is that it makes you weak-minded. It makes you think you can have great pleasure at a low cost. It makes you a wishful thinker, making you think that you can have something because you want something. This happens often because people tend to believe what they want to believe. SO you get guys thinking girls will like them because they want them.

If you don't control your sex drive during they day. How can you expect to control your sex drive with a hot girl? How can you expect to not supplicate to her if you have been giving in to your sex drive all day.

So this is something to practice. Don't masturbate. Don't look at porn. Don't look at attractive women when you pass them. Don't even fantasize about sex. By doing this you are practicing controlling your sex drive. You are developing the energy in your will to deny yourself. You are getting comfortable with how it feels to resist temptation. Self-denial is not a part of the culture to day so you may find it hard to believe how this may help you, but once have become comfortable resisting your sex drive. It is easier to neg. It is easier to freeze out. It is easier not to supplicated. Because at some point you are going to have a hard-on and you are going to be in bed with a hot chick and she is going to be saying I'm not ready and you have to strong enough to freeze out. This is where character will reveal itself. If you have been denying yourself then this will be easy to do, but if you have been cheating (cheating yourself!) you will just give in.

Before I bring a guy into the field I always run him through this program because believe it or not many AFCS and virgins are the most controlled by lust even though they are not having sex. It is quite the irony.

This right here is the difference between "being yourself" and controlling yourself. This is the difference between swimming upstream and going with the flow. Sometimes your destination is upstream and other times it is down stream. I see being your best self as finding a way to do what you want to do to get what you want. While as discipline is the ability to deal with discomfort, not doing what you want to do to get what you want.

Finding a way to do what you want to do is nice, but discipline shows a certain mental toughness.

Okay so I'm gonna reply to this since I know this feeling very well. Wanting to totally take a girl and she being in this "I'm not in the mood" mentality.

turday I went with Alexa to the movie Taken 2. Good movie and I could see she was really captivated by it. Then afterwards we went to my place. I did some massages on her and touched her, etc however she was pretty closed-up. Much more than usual and something felt wrong. Then she said she felt uncomfortable somehow but did not know why. I threw some new massages at it, yet it didnt really help and she put her clothes back on. She asked if it was better if she left since she didnt want to "do anything."

Then I just cuddled her for a while and emphasized that if she would leave, it would be too different and too weird. Since normally we always have Epic conclusions to our stay together and she gives herself fully and passionately, and if she would just leave like that I would feel weird and scared to lose her, and I would have the most fucked-up feeling of insecurity while I stayed in the Netherlands this weekend. This then became a pretty emotional moment that lasted for three hours. And I relived all the catastrophies of my ex-girlfriend as well as the curse of Fernando (my friend who said that my girls will eventually always distance themselves and start to have doubts, then disappear from the relationship).

It got to the point where Alexa admitted that she wanted to invest in something of greater permanence with me, basically try a relationship, but that I was going at a hundred miles per hour and she just broke up with her boyfriend some months ago, and that she felt insecure yet independent. (Now, if Alexa says that I go for it a 100%, and she says I should try to go a little slower . . . Now think that I already split my attention between two girlfriends . . . If it would all be focused on one her head would explode! The irony is that I am so over-passionate that the only way for me to keep a girlfriend, seems to is to have more than one.) I found this out during my previous relationship. Alexa repeatedly emphasized she didn't want to do anything tonight, and offered to go home like ten times. She insisted that she did not want me to get aroused by her presence. Then I suggested to have a tea in the kitchen, which is what we did.

I quickly threw out some messages to Chrissy to have a "late night back up plan." I did this while texting my parents planning my trip back home as not to arouse suspicion. But Chrissy wrote back: "Tonight I have a halloween party but hey the neck massage is already in your agenda for Wednesday night." It is true! After all Friday evening when going out with Chrissy I showed her my busy agenda and she offered to give me a massage for my neck since she has been a professional swimmer she is good at this stuff. Then I booked her Wednesday deep night and I wrote it in there while she looked. Then Alexa and I finished the tea, got back to my room, said good night and turned off the light.

Then it happened . . . I caressed her hand, she caressed my arm, and before we knew it we went at it like a bunch of wild animals on xtc . . . All the passion in her burst loose and she even came to an apotheosis!

Next morning I woke up. Started to cuddle the beautiful girl in my bed. Then I continued to cuddle her, caress her, kiss her . . . But no responses. After 30 minutes I thought: "Just by touching her I became so aroused that if I go on with this, I will eventually do something that she is not ready for. Then she will feel insecure afterwards. So, I better do something else now . . . Something Epic." Thus I put my pyjamas back on, turned on the ps3, and started playing Resident Evil 6. Then, within 15 minutes, Alexa came unto me with her über sexy slim body and we made out Epically to begin the day. Afterwards I took a shower but quickly deleted some awesome texts from Chrissy that had arrived during the night from my phone before going into the bathroom. Me and Alexa had breakfast together and we said goodbye. Then I got into the train home, now I'm home writing this message. I find myself with a very good feeling about myself and Alexa. Had I been less persistent, Alexa would have gone home and I had now been with a very destructive feeling.

After bringing Alexa home on the evening and going to the club where Chrissy was waiting, I put Chrissy's hand on my neck and let her massage it. (Since I was supposed to have dinner with some important political guy and then have a meeting with Chrissy. But he was a bit fussy about the start of the dinner so instead I called Alexa to have a drink to pass the time. She agreed. However the guy cancelled completely and rescheduled to Wednesday. Now I had to bring Alexa back before I could come pick up Chrissy.) When I rendezvouzed with Chrissy she said: "You know, this is not the best way to do it." I said: "Where do you suggest to do the massage, then?" She said: "A bedroom will do." then we laughed. I took out my agenda. I said: "Do you see how full this agenda is? The only way I see a place, maybe, if you're lucky, is Wednesday night. But it will be deep night because I have a dinner first." She said: "Book it." So I wrote it in there.

You handled that well. Howeer, I notice you have another option since you have two gfs. Options. That's always a good way to mitigate desire.

Honeslty

Its not just lust that makes people desperate for sex. Its often a shame, stress, depression. People use sex as an escape a lot of times. So being happier and more confident can help a person become more able to control their sex drive.

Well, since you know a lot about this subject, perhaps you wouldn´t mind looking a bit at my thread:

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If you could, I would truly appreciate this!