Hi,
I have been trying some game before with so so success. Last few months I have been seeing pretty blonde and live seemed to be good. However, I have met pretty amazing girl recently. Really. We have seen each other only few times, 3 times probably. For me she is just perfect. And that is the problem. Even though I feel comfortable near her I am just afraid of rejection. And because of that...

I actually set up a whole bullshit project (which she finds amazing) as reason to meet up with her. She is giving off very positive signals but still, I just think she is just a polite person. I know my behavior is silly. I cannot help it.

Now, what should I do? I know that waiting too long will result into either friend zone, finding that she has relationship or something like that. I also know that I should asume its on and hit on her. How to do it?

There is only one approach I can think of in this messy situation I got myself into. Next time we meet up, after we discuss the bullshit project. I will tell her something like "look, I want to say something else to you. I think you are pretty cool and I haven't met such an interesting person for a long time. I want to get to know you better." and then just ask her out for a coffee or sth.

What do you think? Do I plan to play it too safe? (still, she might take it as that I want to make friends with her, for a cup of coffee...)

You have to realize that if you don't show your intentions to a girl right away she will think you're a weak chump. So I would tell her from the start. Your too hung up on this girl and if you think about one girl too much you have a big chance of screwing up. As of now you can invite her again and put the fault on her tell her something like " you're seducing me we have to stop this" in a flirtatious way. But for the future, always be direct show what you want to anybody and everybody don't be afraid. Because that is the only way you will reach success, no other way. Your name says it all, be the real you.

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Slightly off topic but the older I get the less I believe there is even such thing as a "nice" girl. More often than not these "nice" girls turn out to be closet whores, or it's merely a temporary stage of "niceness".

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To be honest I think the "Real you" is gonna freak her out. You remind me of Hans Giebenrath in "Beneath the Wheel" by Hesse.

AA gave you a good line but no way are you going to pull that off. I would ask her out for a taco asap, and when she rejects you move on and forget about her as fast as possible.

Yah, sounds about right. I'm currently dating what people would call a "nice girl" and she is pretty dam dirty in the bed. I still cant decide if It's just because I'm good or I'm her outlet for her to slut out.

ALL girls have dirty fantasies. Society just represses them and forces them to act on the theme of purity. Why do you think porn stars and strippers get bad reps? Just be a man who is a breath of fresh air, be nonjudgemental and be open. She will crack open and show you how "nice" she really is .


Imagine being the guy that fucks them like the dirty sluts that they are and doesn't even mention a word to another soul. You can be a walking pandoras box.

Untruethere are nice girls, they are generally unattractive and/or fat so its likely you don't know any of them as someone with game. When these same chicks get cute they stop being nice as it no longer serves a purpose.

Mr. Assertive you are speaking to the wrong audience, VicPak has mad game and the new guy has no game. So talking about girls being dirty sluts behind close doors misses the sweet spot with both demographics

Thanks. I will try to be more realistic about the 'perfectness' of the girl. It serves no purpose.

And I will do a move on her.

Its actually helping. I should be more realistic. Will talk myself out of thinking she is 'too nice'. That should give me better perspective of the situation.