So I'm sure you have all been there before, you have a few dates lined up and there's always one girl that needs to know every detail about your weekend that is up and coming after she just hinted she wants to see you again.

So... what do you guys say? do you tell them straight up you have a date, or you're out pulling, or do you use the vague "out with friends" excuse?

Interested to hear how people handle this and how the girls have reacted to each excuse.

I find that it's best to be an open book and to make your expectations and desires as clear as possible.

Let's say you meet a girl who wants exactly what you want. Being completely open with each other will make everything practically effortless. For example, if you want to casually date and fuck with few if any string attached, and if she wants the same thing, you can both know that you're each doing the same thing and be completely fine with it. If, however, you meet a girl who's looking for a serious relationship RIGHT NOW and is only interested in dating just one guy while dating no one else, being honest with her will let you two skip all the bullshit and you'll be giving her the well-deserved opportunity to either reconsider her expectations or to find what she's looking for elsewhere.

A good one I use is going out of town. For whatever reason women seem to be fixated with travel, so the fact that YOU are traveling is not only a DHV, but it's also a good excuse as to why you'll be completely unavailable from any form of contact. I use verizon so I get phone service everywhere, but I guess some people don't. Doesn't really matter, because you can still tell girls that you can't answer your phone when you are out of town and for whatever reason they'll be dumb enough to believe it. I use weddings as the "event" because then they can't invite themselves along. I have a bunch of pictures from friends weddings on my facebook so its perfectly plausible. If you are good at lying and your lie is plausible, the girl won't even question it. They won't grill you over a bunch of details about a wedding since weddings are boring as shit anyways. You can also randomly say things like "Ugh, I don't want to go to this thing this weekend..." to help sell the lie.

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when this comes up i like to make the other dates sound like theyre just female friends. like lets say a girl you are seeing is asking you about your weekend plans and you have a 1st or 2nd date with a girl named kaylee that you hardly even know. ill kinda make her sound like my long time bff. ill be like "oh just going shopping at the mall with my friend kaylee". (obv feel free to substitute in a cooler activity if you think this is lame).

the best part is that a lot of the time they're secretly wondering if youre sleeping with the other girl and she may end up more jealous/attracted than they were initially. it also subtly shows that you have female friends and cool stuff to do. i know this stuff works because ive had more than one girl who i eventually got into committed relationships with tell me that they were slightly jealous of me spending time with so-and-so when we first met.

i learned this technique from one of my best friends. i would ask him what he did last night and he'd always say something super vague like "oh i just hung out with my friend lisa". and i always wondered if they were just friends/fucking/where they met/etc. especially if he hadnt mentioned the girl at all before. i think its just a natural reaction. after he did that to me a few times i realized i had to start doing this to girls.

for me flat out lying and saying something like i was out of town or at a wedding or whatever just feels kinda slimy. not judging anyone who does this, but its just not my style.

Lying to girls isn't slimey. They do it to us all the time whenever it suits them best.

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Don't be specific, speak in generalities. Sorry guys but you tell a girl you're dating other girls many of them will be so turned off you wont have a 2nd date.

Instead, say you're hanging out with a friend/friends. Leave them hanging, let them wonder a bit. If you learn to be vague she'll fill in the blanks and if she asks if its another girl say "Just helping my friend Sara with her workout" or whatever it is you're doing but don't frame it explicitly as a date because it'll either look like you're playing games trying to evoke jealousy, OR it'll simply set her off not wanting to see you again.

I like to call them 'white lies', or "jokes I'd forgotten to say 'just kidding' to"

Thanks guys, i've always used the excuse that I'm seeing some old friends / work freinds / friends from out of town i haven't seen in a while, but think I'ma start using that name dropping "I'm out with my friend ****" could make things more interesting ^^ If anything could provoke them to be a little more forward

being mysterious creates intrigue and that tends to be attractive to girls, I wouldn't be specific in my texts relating to my other activities unless they add value. Often by being intentionally vague it increases your worth. "explainers" and "excusers" are generally AFC's.

As the others have said, you don't owe this girl the truth, don't feel obligated to be honest with her with these trivial matters as its very unlikely shes being honest with you.

Just say your busy and have a ton of shit to do. Then if she asks what specifically, start listing the most mundane things so she loses interest.

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I pretty much agree with Heavy on this one!

When a girl says to a guy "I'm meeting a friend for dinner", she means "a guy". When she is meeting her girlfriend she will say "I'm meeting my friend Mary for dinner". By using the term friend they can say they didnt lie or be misleading because you didnt ask if it was a guy (AFC move if you do by the way). Do the same thing, make them wonder who your "friend" is and many girls will ask "who is your friend" which is an IOI. Tell the truth, and if she cant handle it then she was a waste of time anyhow.

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cool cool, well got myself another number tonight so no doubt this will come in useful for tomorrows text (have a date with another girl tomorrow)
appreciate all the suggestions, and it's interesting to see all of the different styles guys have

Question ...
what is AFC an abbreviation of? seen it a few times here

I am severely disappointed in all of you.

I think lying or being vague about your plans or whereabouts is acceptable, you're not married, nor is she your mother. However, I agree with Chief here that you should be open and honest about what you want from your relationship with a girl. You don't owe her much, but you do owe her that.

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