So, I've been talking to this girl, and we get along well. Now, I know it's the alpha male thing to be non-reactive and not make a big deal about things.

So I messaged this girl and she stopped replying mid-way convo, I let like 4 days go by, I opened the conversation again and no reply? Now, maybe she's busy or going thru something - idk. But what do I do?

Plan A: I was thinking abt just waiting a few days and responding with, "?" because long messages are DLV's.

What should I do?

Plan B: Should I ever confront a girl on why she hasn't gotten back to me? If so how, I don't want to come off as mean.

My line would be: Hey, I msg'd you the other day, haven't heard from you - everything ok?

What exactly are you sending?

Post your conversation log

Id leave it a while then perhaps text with hey stranger what the hell happened to you!

I know it's hard not to text but it's the thing to do. Just act as if it doesn't bother you. I currently have a target who is particularly slow to answer txt messages (from 30 minutes to 6 hours). I'm pretty sure she does it on purpose but instead of confronting her on it, I just act as if I don't care.

One day I had a friend bring her something that she needed and that she asked for. She didn't even text me to thank me! I thought it was rude from her but I told to myself DON'T TEXT HER. Guess what, she called me the next day.

If the girl is interested, it will pay off. If she's not interested of course she will not text you again but why waste your time then?

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Confront a girl on not texting you, she'll be done with you.

hehehe the classic "why didn't you text me back?" I sure hope I got that one out of my system!! When ghis is where your heads at it's hard times haha

why are you so concerned about this? surely you must have something more important to do than waste your time worrying about this nonsense. think about the coolest guy you know. the guy who you know that sleeps with the most hot girls. would he be worried about something like this? probably not, right?

there could be tons of reasons why she isnt responding. maybe youre boring. maybe she just isnt interested in you. maybe shes busy. maybe shes just a text flake. some girls just dont respond consistently to texts even when theyre clearly into you.

youve texted and she hasnt responded, so now the balls in her court. dont do or say anything. just wait for her to get back to you. if you really cant just leave it alone then just wait a few more days and open with something funny or interesting and avoid boring and predictable conversations. when you do send something, go with something that doesnt leave yourself open to rejection. something she doesnt really have to respond to. the classic line that people on this message board use a lot is "i just met your twin". its great because its unique and interesting and it can lead to a fun conversation that she wants to respond to. plus if she doesnt respond its not like a rejection because you didnt ask her anything or request anything from her.

also beat her at her own game. next time you are in a text conversation with her just stop responding without notice. preferably at a high point in the conversation.

I wouldn't confront her about not texting...by text. That's retarded. If anything, call her and try to game her that way. I don't see what the point of calling her and bitching her out about not texting you would accomplish, but if you must confront her about it, at least be talking to her with your voice and not your thumbs.

However, I had an experience with a girl who only texted one word/non-useful responses. I was non-reactionary and just waited her out. A couple days would go by and I'd text again, she'd reply back with a couple words and I'd let it die out. She got the impression I was interested enough to text but I didn't chase or get needy and pissy about her inadequate responses. All of a sudden she calls me out of the blue. Then we set up a date. Then we fucked.

I went thru the same bullshit with lame texts that a lot of guys go thru, but I maintained my frame and state. I was non-reactionary and eventually f-closed. I never confronted her about her texting "issues" either.

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You have a texting relationship with her. There is very little emotional investment except for some unwarranted fantasy's you may have mistakenly constructed. There are times for righteous indignation from a stilted lover, this clearly is not one of those times. You have a scarcity issue, solve that and you wont have these kind of trivial issues irking you.

That was the obvious part now here is the helpful part going forward.

Don't spend much time texting witty and clever things before you have had sex with a girl. Mass and extended texting is DLV despite how good your game is.

Guys, thanks for all your messages - especially Itsalwayson, detox and heavy! Really helpful guys.

So I'm just going to share my thoughts on your responses.
Quickly to point out, I'm talking with her on a messenger (not sure if I mentioned it in the OP) I know a lot of guys here don't go for it, I'm not into it either, I do it for practice. So do the same rules you've mentioned apply to messenger as well as text?

Itsalwayson: I really think I should try beating her at her own game, but some members told me not to leave the cconversation in a high point cause it will make the girl think she did something wrong - but Its something I wanna do - thoughts?

Detox: what do you mean by saying I hv an issue with scarcity? Like, I'm not gaming other girls and etc.?

Furthermore, what could I say to get her to respond? But I do like the line, Hey hv you seen *her name*?" then "So, what happen to you?"
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Another issue: I'm not trying to overload this post with questions but I'm gonna post this issue here, while I can because I don't hv much time to spend on the forum.

So, I like this girl, and I've talked to her on and off for a couple months and I think I'm just leading my self on. Do I get IOI's from her? Not really, and if any there hard to read cause it's just on a messenger.

So I don't wanna carry this issue on much longer, I think I'm gonna tel her, "Hey, I think your pretty cool and I'd like to get to know you better." Like, I wanna tell her that I like her but in a pua way, it's not so much that I wanna say, "I like you" but I wanna get that accross to her. Should I make this move and if so how?

And THANKS so much for your help guys I appreciate it, you'd are all so helpful. My game is getting better and better each day.

Guys, hello?

Chatting is different then texting. The whole point of chatting should be getting her # so you can text her thus / then escalating to actually meeting and preferably within 1-10 days... otherwise move on

You have not even gotten her number yet. Texting or Calling is more personal.

Chatting, or using any other online service to hit up girl, including FB does not mean you have close connection.

If you have your chat logged maybe we can help you out better.