with girls that i WANT, i always fuck it up. i get stuck between pushing too much or not enough. i recently played it very cool witha girl, ans there has been iois coming from her. after a long time, i got her number, and have texted her maybe four times in the past two weeks since i got the number. i tried to call her today to ask her out, she didnt answer, but said she would call back....noting since.

i always find myself here--things go really well with a girl, and as soon as i show that im interested, they get all fucking weird. whats gives? some advice please.

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This is truly the hell of it, and without doubt one of the parts of game I've struggled to overcome.

When you display interest, you lose attraction. There is no longer a real challenge to it!

Once you want a girl, you often get the infamous "oneitis". This causes your brain to release chemicals in your body and makes you feel the need to have her around etc. which, if controlled badly, makes you needy and clingy.

When you understand what happens it's easier to controll, because you understand the WHY of it. The next problem you will be facing here, is your body language and your subliminal messages when you are with her. This requires a good portion of well handled Inner Game. Rule one, always be willing to leave. Rule two, never be more invested than her. Rule three, have other women to go to. These are a few pretty basic, but powerful guidelines.

My best advice to you, is learning by doing. Think back on what you've done with this girl that could've displayed you as needy, afc or any other attraction decreasing behaviour. Keep that in mind the next time you start getting interested in a girl. Notice what happens to you, how you feel, recognize it and be aware! Practice makes perfect.

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Alea iacta est - The die has been cast

It's like playing a game of chance. You bet on heads five times in a row, and the coin always lands on tails. Then on the next bet you anticipate tails and change your bet, but the coin lands on heads. Too much push/pull, or not enough, no matter what strategy you use it always seems to be the wrong one with the girl in question.

Since you can't really predict or control what women will do, all you can do is be congruent. Don't keep changing your style trying to predict what will work best on them. Be a straight up pushy asshole. Or just be a really nice guy. But don't keep vacillating back and forth between the two. Eventually whatever strategy you stick with will work on one of these girls.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn