Hey guys. I would really like a good topic on neediness, searched forums, didin't find what I was looking for. Looking anwers for stuff like: where is the line between neediness and not being needy, what make's men needy, how the hell you know when you are not needy, etc etc

Thanks for answers what will come.

Neediness is a desperate need for affection.
The extreme need for affection that will cause a person to take someone else's spouse, sleep with the same sex, bang an HB6 or lower, or engage in masturbation.

To be needy is a guy who needs attention no matter what the cost. A person that doesn’t have much confidence and will bug the living shit out of some poor girl just for a little attention. They are always suspicious, aggravating and generally become an AFC.

Needy is desperate, plain and simple!

This is caused by the more common affliction, Lackapussy,

Lackapussy:
Translation from Hawaii. Lack of sexual activity among males.

A frequent and sometime fatal disease, its causes are lack of use of the male organs resulting in extreme neediness, hairy palms, and wheezing.

The combinations of these two problems WILL compound each other, causing you to give up the male persona.
The only known remedy is YOU!

Signs of Neediness:
1. Buying gifts.
2. Romantic gestures.
3. Expressing your desire.
4. Doing “favors” without reciprocation.
5. Chasing.
6. Over calling/text messaging. (no more than 1 to 1) EVER!

(Please feel free to add to the list)
If you find yourself doing any of these things, YOU ARE BEING NEEDY!

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And I'll take it in the other direction. Be aloof, which is the opposite of needy. Always be unconcerned with the girl's agenda, schedule, and emotional state of being. Express this lack of concern, albeit indirectly. Don't say "I don't give a fuck about you", but ignore her and place your own needs ahead of hers.

If you find that you are doing things that conflict with being aloof, then that is a symptom of neediness.

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Okay that's good haven't done these things for few years now. I just had dilemma about starting conversations in facebook or texting.

I like this.

i would like to add to this:

You need to be somebody that has his own agenda, his own life, so you dont have to be concerned with hers. Make sure that you have things in your life that make you feel fulfilled. Make sure that you can make yourself happy, with or without her.

cheers!

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Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

Neediness can be overcome once the only validation you really need is from yourself. The external is no longer dictating your actions, instead, your internal self is making the world react to you.

As for 1, 2 and 4(partially) this is things you actually CAN do and not be needy about it. It's all a matter of situations. If you put her on a pedestall "Hey, may I buy you dinner at Resturante Le'Fancy? My treat ofcourse!" This is neediness at its worst.

BUT! If you actually feel like she deserves it, let's say she did something for you or to you, and you feel like she deserves a treat for good behaviour, there is nothing wrong with a romantic gesture. Never feel like you have to do anything, because that's needy. But if you want to treat her to a dinner, and you don't do it to gain affection, I don't see anything wrong with it. You should be careful though, as it may come across as needy even if it's not. On the bright side of things, this is "The soft next" in action. This will ultimatley increase her good behaviour and make her realize that good behaviour will be rewarded.

Huh, I guess women are a bit like dogs..

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This thread is pretty brilliant I'm gonna def bookmark!

With #5chasing
And #6 over texting / calling

What do you do if a girl you just hooked up tells you at the end of the night
"Text me sometime tomorrow"

? What do you do to not go cold but not lose yourself into neediness either?

well you can frame it as her being needy.

you: "Oh, damn missing me already? Do i have to get a restraining order?" *smile*

girl:blah blah blah

you: "I am busy tomorrow, but I will try and text you, if not the following day(or any variation of that).

Then give her a reaffirming kiss.

I would disagree with the Romantic gestures. If you are overdoing them yes, it is needy, but once in awhile it is okay to show the girl you appreciate her(if you like this girl and she is a potential gf, of course). Romance novels are a staple in a woman's reading list for a reason guys...