I have a cousin who is pretty much my best friend/ brother. We are even considering once he graduates in December and starts a job to get rent a town house or apartment together.

He goes to Morgan state an HBCU. HBCUs are some of the worst schools in the nation. Morgan is one of the worst HBCUs. He went into college having never hit on a girl in his life, never kissing a girl in his life. At first he a real AFC. Saying stupid things to girls. In his sophomore year he lost his virginity. He still didn't kiss the girl. After that it has been a tough road for him. He has now moved out of student housing and has pretty much has given up and getting girls. I talk to him maybe once a week and when he comes down I try to get him to have fun. He hates clubs so he doesn't want to do that. He is a guy that is really dependent on the outcome. He says he doesn't have time to hit on girls (he is taking seven classes). I find that convenient. He doesn't want to try anything. He feels that online dating stupid. He is too scared to do cold approaches (cold approaches are not too fun though). His dry spell is three years now and he is really down about it. He is one of those guys who will complain about it. But won't do anything about it. He is that way with a lot of things.

What advice could I give him to help him? He is on the path to becoming the 40 year old guy who had sex once and has never kissed a girl. He has also become a negative person to talk to. hang around with.

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You really cannot help someone who doesn't want to be helped. It isn't your responsibility. Just let him know that he should appreciate the little things in life. Other than that, let him do his thing

What are your cousin's interests, outside of work/school? Meeting people through common hobbies/interests would be a good approach.

Or, if you feel that's not going to work, tell him you want to try out a dance class or something, and you want him to also take the class for moral support. He'll probably agree to join you, because he wants to help you out. In dance classes, there are usually more girls than guys, so he'll get an opportunity to meet more girls. And with some winging from a good cousin like yourself, he should be on the right track.

If you don't want to try dance classes, try taking a language class. French, for instance, usually has an unusual number of HBs. And language classes involve a lot of interactions. You can say that you want to take a trip to France with your cousin next summer, but want to enroll in learning some French before the trip...and learning will help if both of you join.

Hope that helps.

Tell him to man the fuck up. Also let him know that girls are just animals that like to fuck. Also tell him pick up is just a game and that it dose not matter. World keeps spinning and that he can have fun with it. Also if he fucks it up it does not matter. You get unlimited lives to try again. Just like a video game. I would also steer him to david deangelo 77 laws. Its a great way to get your or his head straight.

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