i wouldn't say stop negging completely, but definitely stop negging her on things which she dosen't feel good about!
it sounds like you need to show her that she can trust you, and that you are not going to hurt her, which i think will succeed the best if you drop your ego completely and start acting on your feelings

quick update to my situation, we had sex 1 time last night, and 2 times this morning

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Okay! Now you can decide where you want to take this. Lead and you will be fine.

Why are you guys getting into such deep stuff so soon when you should be in the moment, enjoying the magic of things unfolding on their own. Stop trying to be all logic-minded it'll only destroy the seduction.

Well said! finally an opinion which i can relate to!

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My man.

Just remember- she just got out of a relationship so she's in the jungle right now. You don't care about her ex-boyfriend, so when she brings him up, don't pretend to care. Rationalizing what she's going through won't keep her around. Just have fun!

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Yeah, she said something which gave me a clue to what to do as well.
After we had sex she told me that it felt a bit weid to have sex with some one else then her ex, since he was the only one she had sex with for 3 years, after the third time we had sex, she then said that it didn't feel weird anymore. This made me think, if she thinks it feels weid not being with him, and that is the problem that makes her not wanna be 100% with me, then i need to be around her, and in the end it wont feel weird for her anymore because she then will be use to be with me instead of him, can you follow me?

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I am 100% sure that I am correct...Life has offered me many experiences. People are all pretty much the same and if you do not decide to take charge of this situation, you will be on the forums in a few weeks/months crying about how she is fucking you over!

SHE IS FEEDING YOU A LINE OF SHIT AND YOU ARE EATING IT UP!

Peace...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

Or maybe she is just in general confused like some people actually can get from time to time, you know.. just because one girl fucked up your brain, dosent mean that every girl in the world wants to fuck you up!

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Valdemar1 , your have no where near the experience to argue with Cypto, and your presumption of knowledge, especially in light of your post, is ridiculous at best.

I also predict you will make a ham-fisted mess out of this.

But then again, you have no clue what experience i have, nor what i have been through.
The way you talk about this situation, make it seem like you really believe in every girl is a bitch, they know what they exactly want, and they know it from the start, everything they do is planned out in the bigger picture and they only do it so they can achieve their own happyness. which i think is an ignorant opinion, and i think that a lot of people have this opinion due to the community, which have fucked with their minds completely

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I am sorry. Just hear me out, don't put this girl on a pedestal. I can feel your romantic side creeping in and I admire that, I do. You are right, not every girl is a bitch, but don't have your mind manipulated by what she says. Live in the moment, but remember your boundaries, if she doesn't shape up and get over this dude then it is your job to respect yourself enough to not put in 100% when she isn't. Great you had sex, great she told you that she loves/likes you, but don't compromise your dignity. You don't have to be around her all the time, this sounds like you don't think you can win her either way. Like I said before, have a life, meet other girls, you might even find a girl that is ready for a relationship and you will realize that it is your job to screen for the best girl. This girl is confused and it isn't your job to get her up to speed, she has to work out her own kinks.

Then again, we don't know this girl, she may be that "one", but she isn't the one right now to 100% focus on.

great thank you for putting it in perspective!
i totally agree with what you are saying, and i have before let a girl piss on me due to the fact that i was in love, which i will never let happen again.
The weird thing is that we are already acting like boyfriend and girlfriend (i have only known her for a month) earlier this day she invited me to go to brunch with her family , and she have also told me that even though i kiss other people, she only wants me (cant remember if i have mentioned this before)

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and i think i finally get what you are saying, that if she can't commit 100% and stand by being in a relationship with me, then she dosen't deserve all my attention, and if i do give her all my attention then what would talk her into getting in a relationship since i can't give her more attention, right?

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Yup. Once you start thinking as the selector, you can figure out what you really want in a girl and go from there. If more guys thought this way, it would save both individuals the time and heartache. It is a really powerful mindset and I have noticed that girls are more than willing to qualify themselves to you if your frame is that of the selector. Of course, do it in moderation, you need to reward her for good behavior. So I think you will be fine OP.

Valdemar1, I have to agree with Crypto here.

Not all girls are the same, but ask anyone on this board or in real life, and they'll agree: if a girl says she doesn't want a relationship, she is saying she doesn't want a relationship with you. They are always open to a relationship, so long as it's the right man.

Luckily right now, you two are having a great time together. If you keep it up and play your cards right, you may keep her for a while.

She is assessing whether you are a better catch than this guy was, and unfortunately, nostalgia is on his side. If you can rise above that, you're in the clear.
Meanwhile, if she says anything more about this guy, don't pull the "Aw, shucks" card: "Yeah, you're right. You two should get back together, I understand."

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