Hi
I am not a pua but have a read a lot recently.

Where do I start? Okay the classic, the new girl joins office. After a while she suggests that we should go out running. As a fitness buff myself we start running. Did I miss saying that I'm married and she lives with her boyfriend of 3 yrs? One day we decide that we should meetup during the weekend. We go out for a walk, swim, lunch and dinner that day. So we caught up atleast every alternate weekend. All the time telling that we have to be discreet and not tell anyone. I have used mild & heavy flirting, push pull, kino escalation etc. on her.

One day after work we go out for dinner, a spontaneous thing. Went for coffee first. We keep fluffing and fluffing and kinoing. I could see her pupils dilate to the size of her eye. She was talking as though she was high (I thought she was on drugs or so..lol). I know now that I shud have k-clossed her then. But like an AFC I didn't do it. The other reason was we were meeting 2 days after. I had planned to kino and k-close her then. So I know I didn't calibrate to the situation. She comes back the next day and tells that she had a big fight with her bf and he told never to go out with me again.
But Anyhow still we went out 2 days. I held her hands while we were walking, lunch, drinks etc. On the way back home she plays the HMS(Harry met Sally) on me. I didn't even know of the model until yesterday. Fortunately my instincts led me right and I answered that a boy and girl can't just be friends and blah blah blah. But she dropped the ljbf bomb. I dropped her back and said we will discuss it later.

So the next day we go for coffee. We get into a debate. She says we have to be friends. I was composed and rational. She said she Can't hug me anymore and can't hang out with me. She said she loves but can't break her current relationship. Coz she knows that I am not up for a relationship.

Okay all I wanted was a fuckbuddy, but have ended in a different bowl of soup. So now I have changed the game. I rarely speak to her from yesterday. She could pick it up and messaged me asking whether I'm mad at her. I coolly replied that why should I be mad at her. And I'm just busy with work.

That's where it stands now. Looking back I now know what I did wrong.
1. Started as alpha but became approval seeking towards the end.
2. I probably gave my game away as we got more involved and didn't use more push pull. Instead it was all pull.
3. I had one-itis

When a girl talks to me I categorize the dialogs as fluff, shit test or asd. Is it correct?

So any advices and thoughts are appreciated on how I could have done it better. And do you think i can salvage the 1 month i wasted. I think I can easily move on and start new ones over the weekend. So that's not an issue..

Update
She: want to go for a run?
Me: No coz, blah blah blah
After the run she puts in the running website, that "I miss you [my name]"

your married but your still trying to fuck other women?

its scum like you that ruin children and woman's lives

hope you get castrated before you bring a poor child to this world

That was close to funny. You need to work on the humor side of things though. If you had a good sense of humor your gf would not have run away with some married guy or even worser live with you and fuck married men.

Ok lemme guess, now in reply you will say that...You are a fuck, I have fucked more women than you can imagine, or even I give my gf six orgasms in a day.

All marriage means is that you made a mistake, or that you wanted a tax break. It's not a real thing imo. Nor are borefriends. If a woman/man is stupid enough to marry someone, then they are stupid enough to let themselves get cheated on and then have a legal nightmare to contend with just to get out of the relationship--a relationship they simply could've just said "peace out" to had they not made a big public spectacle about it with a wedding ceremony so that they can show their social network how cool and special they think they are because somebody likes them. Ruining children's lives? Married and unmarried alike are capable of doing that. I didn't know that people nowadays even bothered getting married before having kids.

You're on the right track OP. This chick likes you and you can f-close I'm sure. Alls fair in love and war.

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I dunno Ninja, I wouldn't be quite as melodramatic as the previous poster ("oh my god, think of the children") but I will say that I immediately lose respect for someone who would behave in this dishonest fashion. What's most upsetting is that this guy's just dropped his marriage into the conversation casually and then gone on to talk as if his wife didn't exist, as if he was just a single guy like the rest of us. I'm no fan of marriage, but have the decency to treat it as an actual ISSUE that you made vows to be faithful to someone in front of a congregation.

Fair enough. Although you'll find that men on this site aren't exactly going to impress you with their SPAM of women, whether they're married OR single.

Could the OP have omitted the part about him being married? Yes. Since it really had no relevance as far as how to get this chick to like him more or whatever.

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I've seen countless guys on here talk about how wrong and unethical it is to cheat, there was a whole thread a while ago called "I want to cheat, help please" or something like that and everyone told the guy to go fuck himself.

PuaNinja I thank you for your advice and support. I k-closed the girl tonight.