Hi guys

I've been checking this HB9 out at the workfloor lately who works in the office as an intern. I am not related to her job contents whatsoever, she just works physically in the same office.

I made the approach today when i met her at the busstop. We chatted for about 20 minutes. I didn't noticed any clear IOI's but she did talk a lot and was very friendly. I am a quite confident and good looking guy. I would probably rate me as an 8.5. Overall I have been succesfull with women lately, and usually (of course not always) i get "what I want".

Here, however, i need to make this hard transition from workfloor to private life. And I do not really know how to tackle this issue.

Any advice? All I know is her name. I could write her on Facebook, but that seems to creepy in my opinion (it means you are checking her out on the internet). I could just ask her to take a drink next time me meet, but that would sound very direct.

I was thinking to have some small talk couple of times more before adding her on facebook and have a talk on facebook later and asking her out this way.

I'm generally speaking OK with being cocky funny, but NOT on the workfloor.

Thanks a lot

You can be direct but very low-key and low pressure about it. "Hey Stacy, I was wondering if I could call you sometime?" or "Would you like to have a drink after work today?" Obviously you want to do some high value stuff before that too.

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I understand your message, but asking her a question likes that gives her too much power imo. If i would do it this way, i would never ask her. I would say like "hey, we should hang out once. where do you like going?"

Here's the thing, you don't want to ever offend coworkers you are hitting on. It can turn into sexual harrassment very quickly, and you don't want that. So you can't play the power game as much as you would normally. This is all situational, but it's worth taking into consideration.

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I need some more input on this.

I have chatted up this girl for about 3 times now on the workfloor. No major IOI's but she is very talkative. I mainly try to help her with finding a job here (she is from abroad and would like to stay).

I am wondering whether i should send her an e-mail with a vacancy i have found (and actually, it IS interesting for her to consider or take a look at). The thing is: i know her email address by looking it up over the intranet page of our company. It might be creepy.

Other option is to send the vacancy by means of a facebook message, but then again it might be creepy since i looked up her name on facebook.

Actually, she never told her name, nor asked mines. However, i obviously know her name through other colleagues. Perhaps the same applies to her.

Send the e-mail or not?

I want her to meet ASAP OUTSIDE of the office so i can transtition to a chill SPAM and start gaming her.

This is easy. Talk to her again and tell her that you know about a vacancy she might be interested in and you'll email her with more info. Nobody here is going to tell you a way to do that without having to talk to the girl.

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You are right. It was also what i would like to do

The problem is i rarely see her. And if i see her, i have rarely the possibility to chat her up.


And the big challenge is setting up a meeting after work while staying under the radar. I don't like to date it up. So i would like to have it really casual, as we are just "catching up". I have no idea how to handle this, without her being absolutely sure i am actually showing interest, what is exactly all guys are doing.

thank you so much

any other advice please? thanks