I'm 6ft3 and 15 stone so I'm not fat but I am certainly not some ripped Edonis male god! I could definitely go to the gym more and I could tone up to make myself in to brad Pitt...

So why don't I, I hear you ask...

Well it's simple, I don't have to! I can pull 9s and 10s and not being athletic has never stopped me. I don't run silly routeens or acts on girls as my goal was always a relationship and not a lay. If you do these acts and pretend your something your not then that 10 your falling for will realise things sooner or later as you can't keep up a pretend persona forever!

For me it's all about being comfortable in your own skin (the biggest form of value IMO). Once I realised this and ditched my insecure hangups I noticed a vast increase in the quality of women I was with.

If I get rejected, I don't care! I'm completely fine with that! I talk to an Hb 10 the same as if shes an Hb 5. In clubs and bars I don't often approach girls because I realised that if you just go out with your friends and confidently have a great time then girls will be drawn to you and actually open you.

Last weekend I was out with some people in a club! It was me and 6 Brazilian girls (one was my gf, one Hb10, two hb9's and two hb7's). I'd such a great time dancing with them and chatting. I had girls approaching me infront of my gf as I was just happy, comfortable and displaying value through just being myself with these girls.


The things that made me more successful are;

Be well groomed
Be well dressed
Be yourself (talk to that hb the same way you talk to your best mate)
Be confident
Don't take rejection personally


Don't pretend to be a CEO

Be the CEO of your own life

It doesn't matter what you look like or how fat you are, in a general sense. What women primarily care about is that you are presenting yourself in the best possible light. This means you are well groomed, clean, have a good fashion sense, and are confident in yourself. For the most part, fat people have very low self-esteem and are slovenly, and this is the primary reason they have little success with attractive women. If they did everything possible to improve their image by being their BEST SELF, then they would get much further with women.

I know lots of girls, 6s, 7s, 8s, that don't want even chubby guys, let alone fat guys. Someone else here said they are chubby and land 10s. Guess what? That's all true. There are so many women in the world that you can always find one who will like you, even if she's better than the ones that don't like you. How awesome is that? But if you buy into stereotypes and self-limiting beliefs, then you'll only sell yourself short.

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IMHO, it does (I am daygamer)

Especially on approach phase (better look = more number closes), but also the dates (muscles = chicks will kino you, dress slim fit shirts)
In LTR also = chicks will check you out more.

I went to gym for one year, lifted weights for a year (bench press 80% body weight).
I see much better results now.

i do agree with the video by julien, however you cannot deny the fact that girls easylier are turned on by attractive guys

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My mind have an idea of what i deserve - i will go beyond it

Probably true. I'm 7% body fat and got decent guns from lifting all summer so I couldn't care less either way. It's a non-issue for me, lolz. For any guys who think their fat is limiting them, stop playing so much video games, stop smoking and drinking, and start lifting.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

Don't be so modest.

But yeah if you feel that your weight is holding you back change it up and work out. I am not fat, but I am no Adonis either but I am going back to the gym. There are also a ton of other good reasons to go to the gym other than girls. Being an actor and racing on the weekend it helps to be in shape.

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Try to live your life like your dream is real

This has been a great thread.

I am 5.11 and currently weigh 99KG (218 pounds) which is overweight.
When I got out of the navy a number of years ago I was 120KG (264 pounds) and it took me a year & I got down to 69KG (152 pounds)

I can tell you that everyone & I mean everyone treats you differently, work, women, when you look good, it has a dramatic impact on the way the world sees you.

I am recently single after being in a relationship for 15 years & I am dropping weight like a stone, eating only veggies, and excercising to the extreme. I know in about 3 months that I will be at an attractive weight.

Not only will my partner probably want me back due to looking awesome but also because my confidence will have sky rocketed. The funny thing is by that time, it won't matter any more.

I am going out all the time and practicing. The hike I take every day has heaps of single women walking up and down so I say hi to everyone I find attractive & attempt to start a conversation.

There is a big advantage for reformed fatties. Because we operate in such a hostile environment, where rejection is the norm, once that weight comes off, it really does become so much easier for us.

Not only that, you can read the signals women give off better, the reason for this is that when you are fat, those signals are non existent, you have something to compare. When you lose weight and get to a normal size, it feels like every woman is giving you the once over.

This once over & extended eye contact has to be sexual because as a fattie, you dont get it, whats changed? You have become more sexually attractive!!

This is powerful information to have & should give you bullet proof confidence.

This has been my experience & I am looking forward to hitting that acceptable weight range in the not too distant future.

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