Howwww do you guys deal with awkward silence? I usually just leave when the conversation dies out, but what about when I'm stuck? If I'm waiting for something or if the person I'm talking to expects more? What's something fun and charming to do to pass the time and skip awkward silence? And don't give me that bs about how it's only awkward if you make it awkward. Just assume it just is awkward.

Do a flourish and yell Ta-Da! Or your best river dance impression!

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You can't let those moments of silence occur, especially in the beginning portion of your routine. Imagine if a stand-up comedian ran out of material midway through his routine! "Uh....chirp chirp...cough cough..." Yea, it's over at that point.

It usually only happens when you are nervous, so you need some stock conversational "fillers" to get you buy when your routine runs dry. Always have those in your back pocket. It can be anything, like small-talk topics. Here's a few:

"Do you think Obama will get re-elected?"
"Have you heard of upside down christmas trees?"
"When was your last relationship?"
"Are you a cat person or dog person?"

I always like using questions as fillers, because then the other person has to do the talking and answering and it gives you time to think of more shit to say.

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You could always just say: "You know when 2 people are talking, and they run out of things to say, and there is this awkward silence, they will usually think they’re the bad conversationalist, but in fact, what they don’t realize is that the other person is thinking the same way too."

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Oh man yeah nope thats not good. I usually can keep the flow going but on a few stubborn mules I like to do 1 of 3 things.

1. Ask a random odd question. Something that needs more than a yes or no answer.
an example would be like if what would you do if you were stuck in a zombie apocalypse walking dead scenario? or what would you do if you got a free ticket to Europe.

2. I play a game and its a great game to play especially at restaurants. I made it up & it's a great way to have some fun and take the awkward off you. Its called Board or Serial Killer. You look around and find a couple having dinner. Most of the time it looks like they are missable. You then lean in and whisper to your girl and point. "Do you think she is Board or a Serial Killer." Every time there is one of the 2 that looks like they either want to choke the crap out of the other or either pick up a steak knife and are ready to slit their own wrists. Don't become the board or serial killer table.

3. Find common ground on the most awful thing you can. Either being a racist or your love of the retarded or just the fact that midgets are scary. That last one will bond you in a special way that you can always pull it back to but dance carefully on that icy path.

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Why guys and girls don't mesh.

"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

Actually, moments of silences are super powerful. It shows to the girl if you're a man or a little bitch that needs to talk and talk like a dancing monkey. Silences create sexual tension, why feel the need to talk?

Keep that laser eye contact & stay solid. Only a guy who's not enough needs to fill in the conversation gaps. Let her invest in the interaction. Let her experience you. Be a man..
You're not a stand-up comedian. You're not an actor. You're not a clown. You're a man. A man is not emotionally shaken by silence in a conversation..

FlaiR

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Use something to blow her mind: the cube.

True but sometimes you can taste when it is not working and things are heading badly quick.

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Why guys and girls don't mesh.

"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

gossip (talking about other people) is always something thaat clears that awkward silence air for me. It usually doesn't stop or will easily lead onto other topics. I'm not sure if it's DHVing at all but it damn sure ain't a DLV.

Juggle with beer bottles to amuse yourself.

Make her notice that you're feeling that awkward moment and move on to the next girl....and make sure she sees you.

I never feel awkward silences, but what i'd do in your place, is to have a set of chess on your hands to pull it out when appropriate.

Sometimes we fail when we post because we don't explain the underlaying reasons why we would do what we advise. Myself included, so I'll explain this one:
When you make her notice that you are feeling an awkward moment of silence, and then you decide to move on, you're telling her that she can't amuse you, she has nothing more to offer you, so you decided to do not waist any more time...this will give a good result only if she sees you talking to another girl after that.
Basically it'd a huge neg...and if she feels she has something more to offer you, she'll try it later but in an inferior basis (you above her).

It's not because of silence that things go wrong. Not at all. Silence's good. Appreciate the tension. If she's in front of you, you still have a chance. Period. It's incredibly try-hard when there's silence and you try to fill in the conversation gap with any subject like you're desperate for approval. Girls read sub-communications 20 times better than us, you're just shooting yourself in your own foot.

Whatever you feels, she feels. If you feel creepy & weird because there's silence, of course she's going to feel creepy & weird. It's your issue. YOU HAVE A PROBLEM. Not her.

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Without reading the whole thread.... fact... women love to hear themselves speak....

The 8-10s will have much to talk about themselves. Learn how to think and talk like a woman.... learn about things women like to talk about. Usually before the first date, I try to establish an initial rapport via text, phone or first meeting to find a common theme and reason to date/hang out. Find out what she's interested in, her passions. I then do my research, keep this as inventory and refer to it as ammo. When I have nothing to say, have run out of witty material or things to sell myself on, I dig in the artillery to let her talk a bit. Her face will light up that she has the opportunity to go on about herself and bla bla bla bla. Look interested, maintain eye contact, make facial gestures that you're blown away by her rambling and most of all smile. Woman love a man that can listen, offer points / suggestions every now and then. Tell them how impressed you are with their vast knowledge. Find something from that to go on and turn it into something, funny, witty or interesting.

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