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just keep in mind, the more that is in it for her, the more she will want to invest, and when you held in high regard, you have more pull with her not wanting to lose your attention, but over doing it and trying to hard can lower her regard of you
the more indifferent you can remain emotionally towards the girl, the easier it is to see her behavior free from emotional influence
Hi,
Indeed she avoids going 'on a date' and tells she is occupied. On the other hand, she seems interested, makes heavy eye contact. In any case, we are not there in your situation. I would go along with pump and say: she is playing games, but i am not sure.
Now, i find the advice of Pumpington to be a very good advice. i would even go further and say: the more you are emotionally uninvolved towards the outcome, the better. And even more: In times where i think women are playing games, the best way to go is bold and straightforward.
her games have affect on you because you are uncertain towards the meaning of it. You dont know whether she is interested in you or not and therefore -perhaps- you are afraid to make a move, a bold move. A move which shows your intentions and thoughts. Perhaps you fear to do so, because we as men feel ridiculous/ less worthy if we are openly rejected.
If you got the balls to do so, i would go to her and say: "hey, i do find you very attractive and i want you." or " i think you are sexy and i want to get to know you better". Actually, the exact words dont really matter, as long you make a bold move and say what it is you want. Then what she says doesnt really matter, it is what she does that will tell you how she feels. This does not mean however that you automatically will get the girl

. Take control of what you want. Have balls and dont be afraid of making a fool out of yourself
in any case, good luck!
cheers!