you're not gonna get this girl

yay all these guys on the forums, have some super hot chick talking to them then they become needy as shit "OMGOSH what do I do?"

go get more girls

By texting her again, you put the nail in your own coffin. done.

Also, I think the "date" was a bad idea....

No dinner, no movies for a first date. Too much pressure and awkwardness.

try "hey im with so and so having a drink at this cool place, you should join us....."

Yep, there's nothing more AFC than refusing to listen to advice

Exactly, you have totally solved all of your problems with this one sentence! As soon as you can stop saying/thinking this you will be on your way to success. Too many quality answers were suggested and you chose to ignore the consensus. I hope it works out for you, but I don't see it happening!

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hmmm.. i feel more bad about the comments i get here.. then about that i didn't get the girl..

but guys i thought the advice was send something or call her cause she still was DTF..

misscommunication then.. ofcourse i would follow your advice..

thx anyway..

and yeah.. i learned something from it, so that's a good thing

Was like the same thing with me this weekend..
I talked with her, and after we set a day I still had the feeling that she wouldnt come. I called her one day before we were supposed to meet and she never responded. Havent heard anything since then neither. Its a bit annoying cause why make out with me, add me as a friend and then do this. Im just really disappointed SPAM.. Tho I used the day giving compliments to some girls at the shopping mall

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ya i think you definitely misunderstood the advice given a little bit. the truth is that it probably didnt matter much because she wasnt really into you anyway. she didnt seem to be too interested in you and you were probably a little too needy.

ftr, i still stand behind my advice. ive used it and i think it works well. probably everybody on these forums has been a position at least once before where youve set up plans with a girl but they werent really all that solid and you felt like she might flake.

in this situation i like to send a text early on in the day that says that ill be like 15 minutes or a half an hour late. this is good because it assumes the date is still on. you dont wanna set yourself up for rejection with an afc message like 'hey are we still on for tonight?' if she doesnt respond to my text, then i assume its off and just dont contact her anymore.

if she responds by saying she cant make it, well at least you got that info early on and can make other plans. the trick is to play it cool like it doesnt affect you. because it shouldnt. in this case ill usually say something like 'its cool, some other time' or whatever. maybe even throw in some other plans like 'ok, no problem, my boy wanted me to go out to [whatever bar] for his bday anyway'.

if you dont make a big deal out of it then shell probably make other plans with you in the event that this was just a misunderstanding or she forgot or whatever. if she was just blowing you off because shes not interested, then it doesnt matter anyway.

either way, you learned from this. the balls in her court now, so dont contact her. if she never gets back to you then you can make a decision whether you want to reopen or not in like a week or two. continue to pursue other girls in the meantime.

Leave it be, text her in a few weeks or month from now. She's a 'long fuse' would take too much time to build attraction with again. Next time a girl makes out with you push things harder, don't waste time time you may not get another opportunity. She went from being short fuse to a long fuse pretty quick, happens often dont stress over it just next time ur getting signs move in quick.

I will! Thanks

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There are a few things I want you to consider about girls that hot. The hotter they are the more options they have and the less tolerance they have for fuck ups of men. I would imagine you could be about 1 in 10+ guys communicating with her this week. All she has to do is get on her dating site or facebook and have 50 dudes wanting to date.

My personal opinion is that you need to polish up on your texting skills. It seems like you sent 3 texts before she responded. I also don't like inviting them for "drinks" on a first date. That suggests you want to get them drunk, and try to fuck them. And I'm not sure what "where does james live" means. If it was a joke, maybe it is in context with something else but it doesn't make sense. Hot girls will ignore you when you don't make sense.

What I do when I have a hot girls number but the relationship isn't going anywhere, and I have several of them now, is keep it and text it ever so often. Maybe if you have some funny pic you can text the pic. Maybe if some crazy event happens you can text about that. I have lured some women in by texting once every couple days, and over 6 month period turning that in to 100 texts on some days.

Wow, so you goad women into texting you. You are the PUA master.

Seriously, everything you said is counter intuitive to hooking up with women. Engaging in perpetual text convos with women is the pinnacle of AFC.

No it's not. I've done it.

Let me elaborate to benefit you and everyone else. When I get a phone number, if it's a girl I really like, I like keeping the option open. I don't give up on or delete phone numbers of women I want to sleep with. It's been my experience that I may not be high on a certain woman's pecking order presently, but over time I can build rapport as I am also involved with or pursuing other women. Besides, if I myself am bored, texting conquers that. Right now I'm bored so I decide to write to this forum.

I only pursue women who are slender and strikingly attractive and typically play hard to get for me, b/c I like a challenge. Your post indicates that you most likely pursue women of lower value than you who aren't hard for you to get or you are a poor texter or both. I am not saying guys have to text every girl or "goad" them for 6 months before they have a chance to get laid. But I know I have had 5 instances in about 5 years where, they played hard to get at first, and days turned to weeks, weeks turned to months, but over time they caved in and I slept with them without any other effort or money other than a few texts here and there. I didn't put my life on hold and only text or only think about them for those months either.

The type of women I deal with, I don't limit myself by giving up early once I get a number b/c you never know when they are going to be down or bored, and your text catches them at a time they are willing to be with you. Another thing I have done is texted through their relationships until the man got dumped. I have slept with women who stood me up on dates by texting.

It's a statistical numbers game. if you get 20 numbers this year, half of them may be women who will continuously communicate with you. Half of those you can sleep with. But then again I am really good at text game. If you aren't good at text game, you probably don't believe in doing it.

Obviously I touched on a nerve indicated by your off-handed comment. Pretty funny though, thanks for laugh;)

Of course, it is beneficial to keep 'pinging' girls who aren't as responsive (aka Long fused) in the beginning to work them into shorter fuses, but 6 months to get a girl out via texting is a complete waste of time. This is something most guys do intuitively. Although texting doesn't require much effort, to carry on a long-winded text conversation for 6 months is grossly ineffective, particularly if you have the skills to escalate with a girl in a fraction of that time. The texts I get into with girls, particularly if I've met them online go no more than a week or 2 before meeting. The fact you take as long as you do tells me your game is grossly inefficient, but in the end if you're 'getting the girl', all the more power to you.

This.