let's get to a lesson I learned yesterday, by telling a short story.

The moral of the story was, logistics, take care of them first.

Condoms, rommates, clean the fucking room.

Yesterday...logistics almost cost me a lay. (luckily this time almost). Although I knew this before, I still didn't prepare well enough. (e.g. not enough condoms.)

Why did I forget it? Probably, because deep inside, after going for a while without sex I felt like it's not gonna get to it anyways. That's a shitty reason to let yourself be unprepared.

That same concept can be applied to everything, how you carry yourself, how you look, how you approach life. Even though we should learn from our failures, we should always keep in mind possibility of success. And act like it. Play to win, rather than play to not lose.

Act like you'll get the girl, that'll at least create a possibility that you will. Otherwise you can start feeling lonely, down, unworthy perhaps. Which in turn reduces your chances for success, and those new failures just reinforce your bad opinion of yourself.

You're trapped in a downward spiral of sadness and loneliness.

When I feel like I'm being overdramatic and need to man the fuck up, I have this little thing I do. I hit myself (not hardly, but hard enough to make me snap out of the bad mood.)

I wish had a brother or a friend who I could ask to hit me when I act like a little bitch, but sometimes, you just gotta do it. A nice punch or two, a few thoughts to yourself along the lines of "Stop being a pussy" or "Man the fuck up bitch" preferably in an angry, manly tone, should help.

If anybody has other advises on how to get out of the negative mindset, I'm all ears...or perhaps eyes.

First and foremost, this is a great thing to do. Not only in PUA, but in life generally. If you're unprepared to achieve your goals, you don't believe enough in yourself, and doing a simple action (i.e. cleaning your apartment before you go out sarging) will increase your chances drastically!

As for techniques on changing state, I once learned a way to change state on command.

What you do is basically close your eyes, imagine a time you felt awesome, remember what you felt, how you held yourself, talked, moved. Remember everything. Now make yourself feel the same way, and imagine that you have a button. When you push this imaginary button, you will begin feeling awesome.

This technique takes some practise, but once you can do this on command, it will be totally worth it!

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Alea iacta est - The die has been cast

The more I read posts in this forum, the more I realize that most of us go/went through same sort of "experiences" in life.
The good thing about PU-Artistry,is that you start getting into it for the sole reason of picking up women. Eventually you will realize that you are only picking up yourself from the misery you were sliding into. At least that is my story, but Im sure many of you will know what im talking about.
I love most of the posts in here, well done.

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The strong live off the weak and the clever live off the strong

What I've learned is that PUA is not only about picking up women. It's about making yourself the best version of yourself.

Women will naturally be attracted to these persons, and understanding game, really makes you enjoy it!

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Alea iacta est - The die has been cast