dating this girl 3 months.

she says she can't come through oral/fingering, I tried, she scratched me all over and said it was great but didn't come

I had a one minute man instance then we had good sex one time for 45 min and she was sore as hell, but she didn't come.


she shows lots of signs of interest, and I have told her I want to make her come, asked her what works, ect....she says only thru intercourse....


she has said both "I underestimated you in bed!" and "will it ever happen?" jokingly when I said I want to make her come, but also said my name constantly during sex and other dirty stuff.

If the sex is good and she is horny and there is a connection, will she stick around as we try to get her to come?

The sex isn't good if you don't make her orgasm. It'll feel good to her, but that's pretty much it. Imagine fucking a girl. It feels good, but then imagine if you never get to cum.

yeah man, stop talking to her about it for one. and for 2, research some shit if you're not making her cum. fuck her hard as you can, tear that pussy up. If she ain't comin its not good sex. Try doggy style, great for g-spot stimulation which is probably what makes her cum if she only cums through intercourse.

I think you wrote she was "sore"... I had a similar problem... 2nd time around I brought some wine over and some female lubricant... wine made her relaxed, and the lubricant took care of her soreness. Needless to say she did achieve it after.
Try it - hope it works.

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- Don't get her drunk, just a little booze to relax.
- Use a lot of foreplay, build sexual tension and teasing before going for it.
- Be vocal, tell her she turns you on etc., don't be 100% quiet
- Research oral and finger techniques on finding and pleasuring her g-spot.

For more specific info look up the blog section on puatraining.com and 2girlsteachsex videos, as well as googling other stuff (google is your friend).

Long story short, improve your sex skills dude.

Look up David Shade's Deep Spot technique. I've used it with some success in the past.

IDK guys, you seem to be exaggerating this a bit. I know a good portion of you are great at sex, but I know people who have girlfriends for years with this issue.

Also, my last LTR she always said the sex was great (no orgasm) then I'd finish her off with fingering while she masturbated.

This girl said she underestimated me in bed while smiling (READ: meaning it was good) but has also expressed her wanting to orgasm too.


I just can't imagine a chick leaving you if you have long sex, varied sex, great chemistry, a lot in common, ect, but the ONE issue is you have to work to make her orgasm because you can't just yet. Add in the fact that women seek more than just a nut from sex, and most women say sex feels GREAT even without orgasm, and it just seems too black and white.

Another thing is, maybe you guys mean I have some time to work on this with her, but it is important as well?

Ok this has always always bothered the guys I've been with. I've never been able to climax during intercourse even though I've had consistently awesome sex. It's like one of those things that is kind of a big deal, but sometimes it just doesn't happen and you just have to do your best. For the longest time I was super worried about it, thinking I was broken or something, but I got over it. Obviously looking forward to an orgasm during sex, but as long as I'm happy I don't see why I wouldn't continue relations. Prob same with your girl. Don't stress it or she'll start stressing too.

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