You are what you believe.
"You're not your khakis, you're not you're job, you're not your girl friend, you're not your parents"... you are what you believe you are.
Subjective reality.
You can win on self-esteem alone. Because if you believe you deserve something you will give your all trying to get it, your body will give out before you're spirit.
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People that talk about killing the ego, but really all thats doing is instilling negative feelings and self-defeating beliefs into people. These people put people down in order to correct behavior or they can't stand how you think(how you feel about yourself), but all this is fixing a leaky pipe by cutting of the water all togther. It is trimming the hedges by chopping the hedges down altogher. Crazy.
Confidence applied properly will supercede a genius.
Its all emotional. The way you think creates feelings and the way you feel propells behavior. People are all the same. When it hurts you want to avoid it and when it feels good you want it.
Its pyschological pleasure though. The thing is this people create excuses to do what they want to do and to not do what they don't want to do.
Its easy to cheat yourself.
Why should you not make rejection a practice? You don't want to get in the habit of losing. You start to expect it and you start to become okay with it. More importantly, you have to protect your insecurities. You have to protect your insecurities. You have to protect your insecurities. Otherwise they will grow out of control and defeat you from within. Never put yourself into a situation that your development is not ready to cope with or you stop your progress. Chew on a cracked tooth and it will break. Touch cracked glass and it shatters. Think about this.
However, you must take risks in life to suceed. However, the risk (sometimes) must be complete absolute humiliation. Don't make this a practice.
Dreams, dreams are things you believe in but you can't see. The evidence of the dream is not present, its far off in the future. So dreams are inherently things that are insecurities. They are things that have to be nurtured. Never share your dream with someone that will not support it.
Dependent vs. Independent confidence. Dependent confidence comes from parents, coaches, friends, teachers. These are beliefs that other people instill in you and they can stay inside you affecting your behavior for a life time. Independent confidence are beliefs that come from your own effort. These are a few ways you build your confidence yourself.
1.) Attitude- The repitition of affirmations lead to beliefs.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KhCvL6gxGI Keep telling yourself it until you believe it.
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/02/03/sport ... .html?_r=0 MindOverMAtter: when you feel tired tell yourself I'm not tired. When you feel like you suck, tell yourself you are the shit. you are what you belive. You are what you believe. The power of belief. Belief. The power of belief. I think therefore I am. Cogito Ergo Sum.
2.) Experience. Positive experience that make you feel empowered. Do new things learn how to cook, learn how to swim, learn how to sky dive, learn martial arts, learn how to drive a stick, learn learn learn, Accomplish. Achieve!!!!!! Negative experience will help you if you it shows you something isn't that bad. It isn't that bad. If it shows you that you can get thru it. If it shows you that you can carry a heavier load than you think you can.
3.) Plan- always have a plan. That way there is no anxiety about what you are going to do.
4.) People- surround yourself with people that believe in you. Have a good team. What people say about you has affect on you. Remember the dependent quality of confidence.
5.) Appearance- dress up, Look good. When you look good you feel good and you can use this good feeling to overcome stress.
6.) Routines- there are different routines you can use like shaving, reading the paper, reading a book, listening to music....lucky rabbit foot shit like can make you feel good and you can use that feeling.
Humility- is staying grounded in what makes you strong. I would only recommend the method repeated rejection if and only if you strengthening yourself daily with something that makes you feel like a winner. Something that makes you feel like you should always win. If you don't got that protect yourself.
Dreams
CHAT
