This girl, lets call her HB10 and I had a thing, we had never kissed or anything but we had a bit of a thing over text. We would flirt and generally had a good vibe about her, I was almost in love (maybe because she is so hot.) I would invite her to do stuff but more often than not stuff would come up, she would have volleyball practice, family would come in or she just plain declined which was the case last night.

I don't know if she actually liked me, one of her friends a few weeks ago said I better not hurt her, so that made me think she actually does. So last night I invited her to a party that I was going to but HB10 replied with "thanks but no thanks " and then I said "I'll party hard for her " and then she replied with "don't get too wasted "

So fast forward to the party and at the end of the night I end up making out with an HB 7, and progressed to a SNL on her, barely said any words but ended taking her back to my house for a good night of fun.

So the HB10 and I have hung out once on a group lunch date and that has been it but we have texted a bit all flirtaciously. These girls are in high school and I graduated this past year that's how i know of them.

So the problem I forsee is that the HB10 will want nothing to do with me after I had sex with the HB 7, is there any possible way to recover from this? The HB10 and I have never kissed or done anything, so will this move me directly into the friend zone once she finds out? I was blackout drunk and really wish I hadn't done this. I think I was starting to develop feelings for the HB10, over text that might just be a sign of oneitus, but my feelings are even crazier for the HB10 now that I realize I might lose her.

What would you do?

You had a bit of a thing going on over text? How cute!! Anyway, the more wait the more your chances will decrease. Freeze out for the time being nd keep text to the minimum if she texts you. Otherwise dont text her. In 2 weeks or so, call her and ask her out to hang out. Once you do that, escalate, escalate and escalate. Tell her you got something for her and you will give her it later. When she asks for it again, tell her to open her hand and close her eyes. And then kiss her. Only do that if the vibe is there.

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Best bet is to nail a solid date or night out with her, because if you dont esculate from the flirting texts, any feelings she has for you as a bf will soon die and youll fall stright into the friend zone. As for the HB7 i wouldnt worry as your not yet exsclusive and may well go completely unoticed.

hope this helps.

A few things I wanna say.

1) She is not your girlfriend, she shouldn't give a shit if you fucked someone else. Its not a big deal unless you allow it to be. Don't even mention it, if SHE brings it up then don't even think about apologizing or making excuses for it. Just tell her truth like its a perfectly normal thing (which it is!). You were single. You had sex. Simple as that.

2) If you want her then get things moving along bud. I've never heard of any girl being seduced through texts only, next time you're with her escalate. Don't be afraid. The irony of it is that the more you want her the more scared you'll be of escalating and therefore the more likely you'll be to do nothing and lose her. Get over that fear, no risk no gain.

3) For your own sake try and not "love" her. You haven't even kissed her yet and you're already putting her up on a pedestal. Even if that doesn't effect your chances or getting her (which it probably will since you'll be more needy) its bad 1-itis for you. There's 3,500,000,000 girls in the world. She's not a beautiful and unique snowflake. Google some tips on getting over 1-itis.

I feel as if I betrayed the HB10 by sleeping with another girl, I eventually want to make the HB10 my girlfriend. But as this is highschool things will probably blow up and the HB 10 will hate me for banging the HB 7. And the date we did go on was about a month ago but I had been flirting with her with good receptiveness all the way up until now. I have not texted the HB10 since boning the HB 7 last night as I do not know how to start. I just feel extremely guilty

You hit the nail on the head. In the real world (ie: outside of dumb high school drama) this is not considered cheating, or wrong.

You're killing yourself preemptively here. First of all you have no idea what she'll think so stop assuming you know. Second of all she would have zero justification to hate you, she is not your gf and you have no exclusivity.

This is only a big deal because YOU are making it a big deal. Not her, not the HB7, just you.

How do you deal with high school drama? It doesn't exist! In your frame and in your mind you know you did nothing wrong, you act like it and think like it and she will follow your lead. But you gotta convince yourself before you can convince her.