I been talking to ths girl for about 2 weeks now.. I thought we had a really good connection and after both dates we went on, she texts me tellin me what a good time she had and we talked about getting together on Friday.. We text back and forth for awhile and then i ask her were we still on for our date.. We were supposed to go out at 6 that evening I don't get a response until about 7 with her apologising saying she had to drop her kid off with he rmom and asked can we reschdule for tomorrow(Saturday.) I said no problem and told her we can meet up around 8... The next mroning I called to confirm and she said 8 sounds good, but she'll get back to me to let me know defintely.. 745 comes around and no word from her so I text her and say "a head's up would have been nice.' She responds with I'm so sorry I was helping my mom.. can u please forgive me.. I didn't respond to her text because it seems like she's playing games, but she seems like a great person and I don't want to miss out on a good thing.. Do you guys think I should give it about 3 days then respond or should I just leave her alone all together??

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Neither. The "wait x days" thing is a whole lot of BS. What are you in high school? How can you complain that SHE is playing games when you considering doing stuff like this?

There's 1 of 2 possibilities here, either:

a) She's just not interested anymore. Why? I don't know, but my gut feeling is that you're being a bit too needy and suffocating her.

b) Those excuses are actually genuinely true. In which case its still shitty of her to tell you so late, she should at least cancel an hour beforehand not an hour AFTER.

Option A seems more likely. What I would do is just let it go. If you can't then assume option B, level with her telling her she ain't treating you right and give her a final chance. If she flakes again then move on.

And please try to not come off as needy or desperate. Like constantly asking her if your date is still on and calling her to confirm twice a day, and when she flakes you text her with guilt trippy messages. Its very simple. if you set up a date then just assume she'll be there and don't seek further assurance. If she isn't then don't call or text her, just move on. Only respond if she contacts you apologizing and you actually believe her excuse.

The only reason I had to confirm was because I had to pick her and she stays about 30 minutes away from me, but you're right!! It is kinda high schoolish for me to do the whole 3 day wait thing and letting her go, but women flaking on me happens alot.. How can avoid being flaked on.. I don't think I'm a clingy or needy indivisual, but then again maybe that's something I have to really look at myself and see.. Thanks for the advice bruh

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Then just text or call her 15 min before you're leaving to confirm, if she doesn't respond then don't leave and assume she flaked.

As to why so many women flake on you, I don't know. Will need more details. My gut feeling is still that you're somehow coming off as too needy and perhaps a bit boring. That may sound harsh but I don't have a lot of info to go on here, but you didn't mention any kiss or sexual vibe anywhere in that post (after 2 dates) so that's my assumption.

In any case, good luck.

I guess I should elaborated more.. both dates we've kissed, when we walked around, we held hands and she even hinted that she wanted me to meet her family.. I really don't know what whole intention were, but she's into me, she'll call.. If not, then oh well.. Thanks man..

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Maybe I also forgot to mention she's been leaglly seperated from her for two years whom she has 3 kids with.. U think that could play a part?

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Stop making excuses for her, if she's not making the time to see you she's not interested. If she's interested she'll take the initiative and contact you.