Started freezing this girl out because she ignored an invitation to hang out, she's invested in me as I've had sex with her before and she's emotionally opened/cried with me. Anyway normally when I freeze out I get the standard "Are you ignoring me?/have I done something wrong?" text.

This girl just sent me one word..."babe"...weird, she's still frozen out. Any insight?

Trying to initiate you with minimal effort. If I text somebody a "." for example and they don't respond I can frame it to myself as "she just likely thinks it was a mistake/pocket text, so I wasn't rejected". Alternately, if she texts me back "OMG Hey stranger how are you???" She's demonstrated greater investment, and I feel pretty validated and good about myself (e.g., being the pursuer EVEN THOUGH I texted her, albiet something minimal that I know doesn't warrant any response). Let her sit in it for a bit and make more of an effort, she's likely irked by things.

If you have already slept with her, it is possible that she thinks "been there done that".

You tell us about your history but not about her current emotional connection to you, how on is she?

If she is not all that into you at the moment, a freezeout doesnt work the way you want it to.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

There isn't a "massive" emotional connection at the moment I would say. I mean the crying stuff happened about a week and a half ago and the freezeout started friday.

The text I got was after a night out, it felt like a bad week as she kept asking what I was up to and I was mainly busy then, heres the texts instead of explaining the week:

her: whatcha doin 2nite?
me: round alices drinking with company
*morning*
her: coooool kid
me: funny girl! What r u doing in ur fucked up world today?
her: been to uni and goin out shopping at a student thing, u sir?
me: spent today sailing, standard. sirs good, if your good il change your nickname.
her: sailing? explain! My nickname is Amy!
me: It definitely isn't we should hang out tomorrow.
her: It is! I'm in a kfc SPAM I'm working till 5 ): what r ya upto tomorrow?
me: got uni till 330 then going out clubbing. We'll chill between then.
her: I'm out clubbing too
*I got very drunk think i saw her for a couple minutes, woke up in my mates kitchen*
her: babe

Why the freezeout? Just casually invite her out again.

This.

I dont really see why you did the freezeout either. She didnt seem to have deserved it, a freezeout is just like a waterspray-bottle. You only spray her to show her that she did something wrong.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Here we go for feedback/reviewing/whatever purpose:

Me: Alright cheeky, Just saw something that reminded me of you. Congrats
Her: What was it? A dildo?
Me: Nah dirter. Dildos are for pussies, try not to smile at that too much!
Her: LMAO bellend! hmmmm I can't think of anything dirtier, what was it.
Me: Nah that would be boring, I swear your supposed to entertain me.
Her: Haha no! you're supposed to entertain me!
Me: awww cute, you couldn't rise to the challenge So what's the schedule like this week?

Just sent the last bit, will update.

OK, so a little step by step.

Good opener.

She responded with "What was it? A dildo?"

Sexual right out of the blue. You should reward her for this. Or tease her for being so sexual. "You'd love it if it was wouldn't you?" or "Yep! A nice big 12 incher! I know you like the big ones!"


Go even higher than her, don't apologize for it. Instead you said her sexual comment wasn't good enough. Did you really see something that was dirtier? If so what was it?
If you didn't, well could've been creative here. "A nice big rodeo saddle with a 10 inch vibrator in the middle for you to sit on!"

You teased her with "something dirtier" but she never found out. OK, you built anticipation, and she got nothing in the end.

She's still invested, good. But could've taken the stakes higher here.

She text back after 1 minute saying:

"I've got time to fit you in x"

Only just checked my phone tho (hour and a half later) what would you guys advise? I mean would it be beta to instantly be "Im free now get over here" or considering going "I bet you do" then calling her tomorrow as I really cba with fuzzing about tonight or "Make sure you do."

progress but fuck my phone.

So basically after I sent that I went out and my phone ran out of battery. Just got back charged the phone and had two texts

"Fuck me right now"

and

"oiiiiiiiii I NEED A FUCK NOW!"

sent to me just after it ran out of battery. fuck my life.

Anyway rang her, she was still up but too tired to walk. Invested tho by moaning about not texting her enough, asked when I was free and made me promise to a) cook for her b) fuck her.