I'm having a major problem. I've recently gone to University and need a bit of advice on what I should do next. So I met this girl at freshers and shes part of my "clubbing group", we all went out one night and we got pretty drunk and we kissed. Afterwards, we went back to her room and she was pretty keen; pinning me down on her bed etc. Though she said that "if you want it, you've got to wait for it"... so I just went with the flow and just ended up sleeping in her bed with her.

The following day, went round hers, saw a movie, nothing happened as she said in the text "yeah we can watch a movie, but we're not doing anything". The next night, she came round mine, but again both drunk so we just slept in the same bed together.

Then tonight didn't go well. She came round to watch another movie, though once it finished she said she wanted to go back. I said to her she's free to stay with me as it wasn't like she hasn't slept in my bed before... she was adamant on going back to hers, so I thought fuck it and said bye.

So yeah, apart from stop being a bitch, what should I do next my fellow men?

Looks like you were too passive. She was ready but she wanted you to prove to her that you'll be a good lay.

You should get it over with and do direct with her. If she doesn't want it, back off for a bit and try again or give her a cold shoulder.

Right now it's clear that you missed that 1 golden opportunity and she see's you more as a friend day by day.

You're investing too much. Make yourself less available. She already knows she has your interest, but you're coming off too eager. So freeze out for a couple days and re-frame. Instead of "come over and watch a movie", go out and be a bit more spontaneous and in the moment. She knows you want sex, you're just not willing to push for it since you're giving her all the control. That "wait for it" is a fucking shit test man. Nothing wrong with respecting her boundaries, but be constantly pushing them.

Next time you are with her (in a sex location) fuckin escalate man! Don't agree to "we're not doing anything" solidify what you want and accept nothing less. You should easily be able to see you've gone deeper into the friend zone every day here.

you didn't plow through her resistance?

I bet someone else is giving her the cock

That is the problem! What steps are necessary to reverse this?


Thanks for the response guys, really appreciate it. So I should leave it for a few days and let it cool off. Though, I'm unsure if she's looking for a relationship or perhaps potential "hook up buddies"

Attractive HB's in college (read: girls with lots of options) are definitely best attacked from a hookup angle. It's mainly the low value girls that seek out relationships from the get go, because they don't have a large pool of good emergency dick floating around. Move too slow, and you'll get left behind.