Firstly, I am no longer a virgin! I'm 29 and it had been driving me crazy all the chances I've had in the past few years to change things but not taken them mostly due to lack of experience but also the odd piece of bad luck. Finally, the other week (before I went on holiday), I met this girl on a night out through a work friend of mine. She was no more than a HB6 but, as beggars can't be choosers and I had been going through a really bad time, I thought fuck it and went for it later on in the night. We made out on the dance floor a few times and then went back to mine to do the business (for the first time in my life!!!!). She left early the next morning and I didn't get her number as I didn't want her to be my gf and didn't have the foresight to realise she could be a fb.

I will ask my friend at work for her number and presuming I get it, I'm not entirely sure what to do to then make her my fb. Shouldn't be too difficult (I hope) but I was thinking perhaps texting her something as simple as "hey, was great meeting you that night, and I really enjoyed it. We should do that again sometime..."

How do you think I should make this girl my fb? Would you be more explicit about it or just try and meet her first?

If I could make this girl my fb it would be brilliant as not only would it make me more relaxed now that I'm getting some (lol!), but would also be great practice to have the confidence to hopefully start laying many more girls - and even potentially the biggest regret in my life so far, the oneitis I was too much of a pussy (probably due to be a virgin at the time) to lay earlier this year when I had the chances, but now I've moved away to a completely different city for a new job etc (you can find plenty posts about my oneitis in my history).

I think the idea of getting her number from your friend at work is kind of weird. If she wanted to get together again she probably would have given you her number or asked when she could've seen you next. And then the whole oneitis thing... if you chase this girl it'll get sticky. You should just be happy about your newfound confidence and go for a different girl.

Well I have nothing to lose from getting her number from my friend at work. The only potential downside is if I could see her again in the social circle on another night out and getting her number/going for it early impacts my chances of trying to make her my fb then. Regarding not getting her number, it was only now that I thought that I might as well try and make her my fb, before I didn't try and get her number either.

Re my oneitis - Of course I won't chase her. There's actually a big social occasion next month in my home city where I should see her. It will be the first time I've seen her since I moved 4 months and I will not actively pursue her that night. What I will definitely do, however, is make sure I take my chances (unlike the several chances I failed to take before!) if any are presented. Even now I still think about how her and how I felt back then. The regret still haunts me and I think the only way to get over it is either to get her, or meet someone else that I like even more.

Firstly props on getting the lay that must be a huge ego boost.

Molly I think you absolutely hit the nail on the head. Getting her number of someone else seems a little weird. If you really want her number ask her for it. Leading onto next paragraph...

I have never really read anything of fuck buddy game which is why i wanted to read this. However it has to be direct game there is not really any way into falling into having a fuck buddy without getting her emotions caught up as it becomes regular and as its linked to work that is definitely not a good idea, there has to be some arranged agreement almost. I heard some great stuff from Cajun he talks about sexual framing and making her think of you in a purely sexual way. Maybe this wont float your boat but you could say something along the lines of "even if i didnt want to fuck you every night id probably still hang out with you... you're pretty cool".

Obviously that would be risky and it might not come off but i can tell you one thing. Making here your fuck buddy "Shouldn't be too difficult (I hope)"will be much harder than you think.

Wilheim

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o

Sorry, had to post this link. Congrats on finally leaving the virgin community, man!

Idk why guys don't understand that getting a girl's number from someone else (unless they actually have a good reason, like leaving something at her house) comes off as really creepy..
And I wasn't talking about your old oneitis, I was concerned you were going to establish a new itis with this girl seeing as you're already attaching yourself to her because she slept with you.

Thanks for your post and for the encouragement about the ego boost lol

As it happens, my friend at work could only give me her SPAM’s number (who I also met that night), so I had to text her first to get this other one’s number. Though, in the end it’s all good. Got the number and, believe it or not, all is good now.

You may even be wrong about getting a fuck buddy being much harder than I think lol. I text this girl for the first time who I laid and not only did she reply within 20 minutes, the rest of the texts were all good. We even flirted/talked about her taking advantage of my drunken state that night and about the possibility of next time. As we are both away in different parts of the country this weekend, I will text her Sunday evening/Monday and try to organise something for in the week.

Haha love it!

Well, it was either do this or have no way of getting her number at all. Quite frankly, if one has this mentality and just gives up even when they have nothing to lose, it strikes me as being a loser.

As you can see from my previous post, it is paying off my approach. By next week, I should know for certain if I have struck gold. Even if I only get another lay out of her and no more, it’s still well worth it.

The only gamble is that as I - and my friend who gave me that number - work at a bank in London where, of course, it’s all very formal, if things got messy with this girl (though highly unlikely) I’d rather not be in the situation where any colleagues knew about it etc. However, this risk really is miniscule.
Already attaching myself to her? I genuinely have no idea how you have come to that conclusion. I even mentioned in my first post that she was no more than a HB6 and I had no intention of wanting her to be my gf. All I want from this is to have a fb for the first time in my life.