I dont mean to sound like an asshole but what the fuck are you doing?! You got back together with her on the premises that you will fix all the things on yourself that she wants you to fix and that are wrong with you according to HER?! Do you agree, when looking in the mirror, with her demands or do you want to continue the life you lead and find someone who actually accepts you the way you are without any strings attached?

Why would you need to become the you when you met? Provided that you didnt meet her last week, people change, some for the better, some for the worse and some have their phases, ups and downs, thats life.

The real value issue here is that you will continue to lose value in her eyes as long as you keep jumping through her hoops. This will result in her being bored, find new shit thats wrong with you just to keep her leading position up and still let her eyes "wonder off" or whatever bullshit she said.

My man, to not make this into a huge post i would advise you to take the leading role in your relationship. You have decided to stick with this chick but do NOT let her be a mom-figure. Nothing good comes from these types of relationships, trust me. Regain the frame, do what makes YOU feel good and improves the quality of YOUR OWN life not what she directs.

Tony, I think he is saying that he was outgoing, had friends, did his own thing, etc...When they met which made him attractive, but after he started dating her, he began to stop doing all of those things and focus only on her/their relationship.

She probably felt smothered. Just my interpretation of course.


Peace...

How long were you guys broken up for?

I like this! thanks man, I agree with her that i have let my career suffer and my social life, and now im going to make my self my main priority!