I apologize if this belongs in another forum....does get to a question so bear with me....

Saw my one itus for a few minutes at work. The usual, she can't keep her hands off me, asks why im not wearing the bracelets she gave me (took em offbefore work, on purpose) flirty blah blah.

I have no plans to contact her.

I go out w/ some friends to relax, have a drink and maybe PU.

I do just that. I score a Russian girl at the bar, and immiediatly bounce her.

Its now 1 am, im at location 2#, and one itus texts me..."hope you had a great night, friend".

Now I know replying is a mistake, but I do anyway, and Im glad I do.....but we text for the next 3 hours.....up to the point that I am taking Russian girls dress off, I am still texting her.

Needless to say, freezeouts were easy.....i' just go text, then she would get mad and try harder lol.

I did not care if I fucked her or not, so it was all a go....

My one itus was actually in bed w/ her bf while texting me the whole time.

She said she was worried about me not wanting to hang around her if her bf was around, that it was putting pressure on her, and she really likes me, its just lousy timing.

at one point I responded that it was ironic we both had sombody of the opposite sex, at there very moment, right where we wanted them, yet we rather text each other all night long.

I fucked the russian, felt better about everything else, but scared of my one itus. I don't really want a LTR, yet I do like her, and im invested in her, so I don't wanna just eject....

its kinda fun.

I think I need you to define what you think a one itus is. I'm pretty sure your one itus should be a girl you actually like. It sounds like you both are just playing the field and have a mutual interest in each other. Unless I'm missing something.

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Its weird....I DO like this girl....but im definitley not ready for a relationship, and not even sure I'd wanna be in one with her....in the meantime, I obsess about her.

I think about her constantly. I manipulate my work schedule and social gatherings to see her.

I passed on a booty call saturday night just to be with her....so yeah, I think its OI.

Don't get me wrong, I don't pine over her or drink my sorrows.....she's just always on my mind.

At what point is altering work schedules, social gatherings and passing up sex with a genuinely receptive woman just to bask in her presence NOT pining after her?

Hmmmm, I see your point. I must add, its like wanting somthing you're not sure what you're gonna do with once you get it.