Just asking, Im AFC/ PUA ( Newby ) but dose anyone feel bad, say you meet this girl but she's had sex with 'WAY' more people than you, How do you over come it it or how do you's view sex? . . lets turn it around, lets say to meet your wife in few years or soon but she's mad/sad you've slept with all theses girls? . .

I don't know what to do ( break up with my gf of 2 and a half months or carry on and always have pictures running though my mind of her having sex any place with all kinds of guys. HELP please ; )

Jaffa,
Your looking far to deeply into this. The only thing that should bother you is if she’s sleeping with someone when she is in a relationship with you. If you like her try and give it a proper go. Judging by what you have written though this topic really bothers you and i think it will be hard for you to come to terms with.

I have slept with a lot of women and been asked the total question loads. The simple answer is LIE. Only you know the exact total and what difference does it make anyway i usual say 20 ish and that seem to go down ok (bear in mind I’m 31). Personally I’m not that bothered, I’ve recently got into a new relationship and i have absolutely no intention of bring this subject up.

What you dont know wont hurt you.

Be well

Hendo

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Hendo

Why do you care how many guys she has slept with? So what if she's been with 100 guys. The only two things you need to be concerned with is STD and STI's that is it. As long as she is clean then you are making a far bigger deal out of this.

Bottomline, if the girl has slept with a lot of guys, she's a slut. A good looking girl has a lot going for her, and there's no reason why she couldn't have boyfriends and steady longterm, monogamous relationships. If she's older, that's one thing. But some 21 y/o shouldn't have been with more than 20 guys at that point in her life.

So it comes down to you being comfortable with being with a slutty girl. I personally don't really have a problem with it, because I hold women in such low regard as is. One of the most problematic girls I've ever been with was a virgin when I got to her. Also, some girls go through slut phases and then are done with it. I would only be concerned if she currently had the mindset that she was going to fuck any dude that walks by. If she seems to be loyal and done with her slutting around, I wouldn't focus on her number.

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Not unless you have slept with zero.

You should feel bad about who you sleep with, not about how many. Also bear in mind why you do it.

Sex is just sex as long as all of the involved agree on that, if they dont, it isnt just sex.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Who cares man? it doesn't matter as long as she is faithful to you while she is with you...yeah it sucks but it was before you.

Think about it this way. She chose you over all the other guys she was with, you are her alpha male.

I actually like a girl that has had several/many partners, I want a woman that knows what she does and doesn't like to do in bed. A sexually mature woman is a much better lay than an inexperienced one.


Peace...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

Ask yourself the same question find your own morals and run from there. If you would be happy to go out and sleep with 50 women, and expect a girl who only ever slept with 2 to like you then ye no problem.

I prefer it if a girl has had a reasonable amount of sexual partners. There is NOTHING worse than a relationship with a girl who has a lower libido than you do (if you don't know what to do about it.)

I like a girl who loves sex, wants sex and has no sexual hang ups. I do not judge people on this, I couldn't give a shit.

Yes, yes, YES, YES, FUCKING YES!!! This SO much. Whenever someone I know gets hung up on numbers, this is exactly what I tell them. And this is why I never get hung up on it either. Like many of these posters, I prefer women who've had a good number of partners, as long as STDs aren't a problem and she's upfront about her sexuality.

Damn puaninja you sound like a total ass and a hypocrite.
But Jaffa, the only concern you should have is if she's clean (and how to spell "does"). Leave it up to the girls to worry about this shit. In our minds, the magic number is 20. We're ideally supposed to find the perfect guy by the time we've slept with 20 guys. Girls are silly. Don't be silly.

+1

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

Lol 20s the magic number now? XD

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One's sex life and preferences are very personal (surprise...). There are surely a lot of guys on this site who have had a higher number of partners, for right or wrong reasons and with or without regrets. You can't conclude much just by knowing the number; e.g. a person who has had a vast number of one-night-stands can still be faithful and trustworthy in a long-tern relationship. There isn't right or wrong in numbers. If you like the girl and you two have good chemistry together, you shouldn't worry and definitely not judge her for what she has done before you.

Molly, completely agree with you. Puaninja, watch your mouth, your comments are hypocrite and misogynist. There are a lot of independent and strongly sexual women out there that deserve far better than your company or slander.

An example of good advice is what Ezo wrote.

To put it out there, there is no such thing as a slut. There woman who are sexually liberated and those who are not. Once a woman has matered her own sexuality she is incredibly open. She knows what she wants and goes for it. This does not make her a slut nor should be of an influence to your decision on whether you like her or not.

^ If you are judging girls based on the number of men she has slept with, it suggests you are still battling your own insecurities. You are chosing to believe that society has labelled her a slut and it is 'not cool' to go out with her. It pushes back own independent thoughts.

It's hard think independently at first, I agree. Sooner or later you will reliase that such things as the number of men she's slept with become irrelivant.

- Kang