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The check out is a very good and obvious sign, but what I find is (at least in my total AFC days) this kind of display can put pressure on the situation. which can escalate a guys AA (as I hate the acronym, I prefer to call approach excitement)
Example:
You're in a bar standing in your social circle and you and your friend's notice a girl checking one of you out, you notice them and that feeling of anxiety/excitement kicks in as you weigh up the approach and you 'freeze'.
Its happened to me on a few different occasions and the additional 'social pressure' from your friends to "just go over and talk to her" can make the feeling worse.
Its hard to think of another scenario on the spot, where you would get this kind of welcoming cue for you to approach her but if you can't/won't do it, she can lose interest (you've demonstrated to her you are unsure/uncomfortable with the situation and by doing so you DLV yourself).
I know what you mean, sometimes you feel unneeded pressure on the situation that already has the regular pressure. You will gain a confidence where it just seems normal and regular to talk to a woman after her initial attraction, you realize she wants to talk and you are respond with granting her an interview.
You can walk up and say something like "Sheez, I'm not just some piece of meat. You know if you are going to watch this show you have to pay money."
The point is to switch the roles where she is the super aggressive one here. You make it just a joke, what this does is it puts her on the spot and loosens up the situation to start.
You could also say "hey, now if you are going to give me the head to to toe you better buy me a drink."
I love using situations like this. Honestly when a woman does this to you I understand how your friends can make it more pressure filled, in this situation rather than walking up right after she "checks you out" you can wait for a moment where she walks up to the bar and then grab a drink at the same time. Using it as a an excuse to meet her.
The best thing to do over all is just realize it's not a big deal, you've already qualified for the interview, what I mean for this is she wants to talk to you. DON'T reject her! If you don't go over you are rejecting her.
At some point you just gain this confidence there is no pressure on the conversation because you realize this is just a conversation. Remember she still needs to qualify for you and live up to your standards. Don't forget that everything in courtship is two ways, you need to be as interested in her as she is in you. As it stands, she has shown more interest than you and you need to take this as a confidence boost.
Peace and Love,
Vic
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